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Permalink Reply by (white dove) on November 2, 2009 at 12:07pm

Today, i miss my mom very much. While she was ill, she insisted we all hold hands and say a prayer for our dear sick friend. She left this world first, but was sooo concerned for him. He left us yesterday morning. I prayed my mom would be there with her huge wings to guide him. I SO want to call her.... but knowing they are both together now along with all their loved ones, is a comfort. Feeling orphaned. My mom was my constant confidant, and our friend was my "surrogate hubby lol", who held many people UP, including me. Blessings asked for his kind loving gentle soul. God Bless everyone here!

GailM. said:

I honestly don't think anyone ever "gets over it". I lost My Mother over seven years ago and think of Mom every day all the time. All the things we did together and She was/is my best friend. I do feel guidance from Her. My therapist told me "Life will never be the same" and she was right. I don't have any answers for anyone as I am in denial after over seven years. There are many people who have not experienced this and I think they are never sure what to say.
I want My Mother here and that is what would help and that can't be fixed.
Peace to all, GailM

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Permalink Reply by GailM. on November 6, 2009 at 4:57am

I am not sure who mentioned the book "The Shack" to me. I THINK it was Jenn and I did get that from the library. I started reading it yesterday and it is a small book and should finish it this week. I usually read at night after we have all our chores completed for the day.

Peace to all.................GailM.

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Permalink Reply by Janet on November 7, 2009 at 8:37pm

I lost my mom on September 8. I had talked to her on my way work that morning (the first day of school-I am a teacher) and she said good luck on the first day and I told her I would talk to her later. I called her around 5 on my way home and there was no answer. I knew something was wrong and drove over to her house. I found her dead in her chair. She was 88 years old and getting tired and more frail. But I didn't expect this yet. She and I were incredibly close-she raised me herself as a single parent. She was my best friend. I feel like a part of me is missing. I keep expecting it to be her when the phone rings. I miss her so much. Thanks for reading this.

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Permalink Reply by (white dove) on November 7, 2009 at 10:12pm

Aww Janet, what a horrible shock! I'm so sorry for your pain. We have all suffered so in so many different ways.... I was tortured by my mom's slow progression to Heaven. It was a terrible night mare that i try my hardest to NOT bring up in my mind. so many things, that some just would not believe. So i am trying to bring out the good, funny, loving moments and cast away the others..... Peace be with you dear, for your mom's journey was swift and for this she was one very lucky soul~~

Janet said:

I lost my mom on September 8. I had talked to her on my way work that morning (the first day of school-I am a teacher) and she said good luck on the first day and I told her I would talk to her later. I called her around 5 on my way home and there was no answer. I knew something was wrong and drove over to her house. I found her dead in her chair. She was 88 years old and getting tired and more frail. But I didn't expect this yet. She and I were incredibly close-she raised me herself as a single parent. She was my best friend. I feel like a part of me is missing. I keep expecting it to be her when the phone rings. I miss her so much. Thanks for reading this.

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Permalink Reply by Janet on November 7, 2009 at 10:19pm

Thank you. I know she was lucky to have departed quicky and painlessly. And she lived in her home until the end.

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Permalink Reply by Janet on November 7, 2009 at 10:22pm

Thank You. I think I replied in the wrong place!

(white dove) said:

Aww Janet, what a horrible shock! I'm so sorry for your pain. We have all suffered so in so many different ways.... I was tortured by my mom's slow progression to Heaven. It was a terrible night mare that i try my hardest to NOT bring up in my mind. so many things, that some just would not believe. So i am trying to bring out the good, funny, loving moments and cast away the others..... Peace be with you dear, for your mom's journey was swift and for this she was one very lucky soul~~

Janet said:

I lost my mom on September 8. I had talked to her on my way work that morning (the first day of school-I am a teacher) and she said good luck on the first day and I told her I would talk to her later. I called her around 5 on my way home and there was no answer. I knew something was wrong and drove over to her house. I found her dead in her chair. She was 88 years old and getting tired and more frail. But I didn't expect this yet. She and I were incredibly close-she raised me herself as a single parent. She was my best friend. I feel like a part of me is missing. I keep expecting it to be her when the phone rings. I miss her so much. Thanks for reading this.

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Permalink Reply by Carole on November 8, 2009 at 5:51pm

My mom died four hours ago. I am 48, she was 78- fighting small cell lung cancer. We live far apart but I was just there last week with her. She was home until yesterday when she suddenly developed pain and went into the hospital. I have a wonderful husband and three great kids, but I feel like I am the only one who feels this. They are all being supportive, but keeping on with their plans- hockey, music lessons- is this what it is like when you are a grown up losing a parent? 'Cause I don't feel like a grown up, I feel like a little girl and my heart is cracking open.

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Permalink Reply by (white dove) on November 8, 2009 at 9:16pm

Carole!!! You have come to the right place!!! We all voice our feelings here without being judged at all. Please, feel free to say everthing your heart cries to let out. There is no loss like losing our moms. Many do NOT understand and their lives just keep going without missing a beat! I remember going to a gas station first time out of my apartment after my mom passed....... I was totally shocked!!! I just couldn't believe people out in the world.. going on with normal every day stuff while i was dying inside!! thats the way i felt then. Many people Don't want to hear about our suffering.. but i refuse to hold it in.. so here we are. Welcome! And may God bless you now and for ever in this mourning journey we are all on. Everything that was "normal" will feel abnormal. Even crazy at times.. all normal so i have been told! Take care of you!

Carole said:

My mom died four hours ago. I am 48, she was 78- fighting small cell lung cancer. We live far apart but I was just there last week with her. She was home until yesterday when she suddenly developed pain and went into the hospital. I have a wonderful husband and three great kids, but I feel like I am the only one who feels this. They are all being supportive, but keeping on with their plans- hockey, music lessons- is this what it is like when you are a grown up losing a parent? 'Cause I don't feel like a grown up, I feel like a little girl and my heart is cracking open.

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Permalink Reply by Janet on November 8, 2009 at 9:35pm

So sorry about your mom's death. I too feel the same way-like a little girl again who doesn't have a mom anymore. I want to tell her I love her again. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Carole said:

My mom died four hours ago. I am 48, she was 78- fighting small cell lung cancer. We live far apart but I was just there last week with her. She was home until yesterday when she suddenly developed pain and went into the hospital. I have a wonderful husband and three great kids, but I feel like I am the only one who feels this. They are all being supportive, but keeping on with their plans- hockey, music lessons- is this what it is like when you are a grown up losing a parent? 'Cause I don't feel like a grown up, I feel like a little girl and my heart is cracking open.

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Permalink Reply by Theresa Cory on November 10, 2009 at 5:12pm

I lost My Mom suddenley in a car accedent she was 77, just 4 days before her 78th birthday. That was in Aug it is now Nov, and I hurt as I did on day one. I dont know how to fill the empty hole inside me. I dont know if there is a time limit when things return back to normal in your life, at this point i beleive this is now normal for me. I miss her so much, she was a very special lady, mother of 9 and enough love for all of us

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Permalink Reply by Lori on November 11, 2009 at 11:46pm

I lost my mom on November 1st. She had a whole group of family and friends around her. It is so hard I'm at home and taking care of my dad. He is at a loss. He is an emotional wrek and he is not in the best physical health. He is being so strong. It is so hard to see him like this. If it weren't for my boyfriend/rock I don't know how I would have gotten through the funeral service and the shiva. He is the best thing that has happened to me. He also knows what this is like because he lost both parents. I'm 36 and he is 41. Does this get any better?

Lori

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Permalink Reply by (white dove) on November 13, 2009 at 2:31pm

Good question. I lost my mom 7 months ago, and then my father took ill. He sure seemed to look as if he were going home.. but slowly came back to all. Nov 1 our beloved friend passed from Leukemia. His Memorial is tomorrow. I felt as if i was coming around to a sort of normalcy then boom boom boom.. with each loved one, i feel much grief. Our best buddy, is a huge loss to us. For me, my healing has been stopped over and over again! For with each loved one passing so close to each other, brings back the severe heartache felt when my mom passed. Again, i will try my best to heal, but i am so very tired..... with my losses ... and all my tears shed. Praying for it to "get better" here too sooner than later. God's Blessings to all.

Lori said:

I lost my mom on November 1st. She had a whole group of family and friends around her. It is so hard I'm at home and taking care of my dad. He is at a loss. He is an emotional wrek and he is not in the best physical health. He is being so strong. It is so hard to see him like this. If it weren't for my boyfriend/rock I don't know how I would have gotten through the funeral service and the shiva. He is the best thing that has happened to me. He also knows what this is like because he lost both parents. I'm 36 and he is 41. Does this get any better?

Lori

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