Gay and lesbians who have lost partners


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Approaching the one year mark

Started by John Lanza. Last reply by Michael Reikowsky Jul 10. 2 Replies

So I'm approaching the one year mark of my partner of 10 years passing next week.  I have major anxiety about it as I do not know what the day will bring.  I miss him tremendously and I think about…Continue

Feeling Numb

Started by Otilio Puente. Last reply by Richard Turner Jul 3. 7 Replies

Hello My name is Otilio Puente, people call me O.T. I am joining in Memory of my husband Brandon (Szarmach) Puente who passed away on October 25, 2013.Brandon was the most beautiful man in my life.…Continue

Tags: Brandon, partner, Gay, numb

Coming up on the anniversary of my partner's death ...

Started by Rebecca Rude. Last reply by Evelyn Roberts Jul 2. 9 Replies

February 19 will mark 6 years since she passed away.  There are moments when it feels like decades since I last saw her in this life and other moments it feels like days or hours.   I still have…Continue

40 years together

Started by David. Last reply by geri hen May 28. 4 Replies

I'm 62 now and I've just suddenly lost my darling Frank to a heart attack after 40 wonderful years together. I never stopped loving him for one minute and my own heart is broken.It's the funeral on…Continue

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Comment by Sharon Dotson on July 8, 2014 at 10:19pm

This past holiday weekend was horrible.  My wonderful partner of 30 years, Helen has been gone for 7 months and I'm going crazy with grief.  I found a support group at our local equality center.  A friend is going with me next Monday for the first session.  With this group and all of you I'm hoping to get through this till I can cope better.  I feel all your pain and appreciate all your support.

Comment by Matt on May 31, 2014 at 2:58pm
Sharon, I am sorry to hear about your loss. Last week marked two years since my boyfriend passed away. If you would like someone to talk to and pray with, I'm here for you.
Comment by Sharon Dotson on May 12, 2014 at 7:35pm

Next week my partner of 30 years will have been gone 6 months.  She was my life and I'm lost.  I don't think I'll be able to go on without her.  I'm hoping this site can help me.  Local grief groups I could go to are for straight people only.

Comment by Shane Clements on January 28, 2014 at 3:27pm

Anytime Dan! Hope all went well last night! I know its rough and seems like it will never end but it does ease some! Things will never be the same but time does ease the pain never heals the pain but will ease it! Hang in there buddy! Sending you good vibes of peace and love!

Comment by Dan Brown on January 28, 2014 at 3:24pm

Thanks Shane.

Comment by Shane Clements on January 27, 2014 at 11:29pm

Dan I am so sorry for what you are going through! I know all too well your exact feelings, It will be one year April 4th that my Billy passed away and as Mike said hang in there and take it one day at a time! You my dear friend are by no means crazy! The feelings your experiencing are very valid and all a part of the grieving process! We are here for you my friend! 

Comment by Dan Brown on January 27, 2014 at 11:06pm

Thanx Mike. Just hearing someone say I'm not crazy helps

Comment by Michael Reda on January 27, 2014 at 10:59pm
Hang in there, Dan. Just get through tonight, and then you need only worry about getting through tomorrow. Just focus on one day at a time. That's how I am getting through my Jim's death up to now. And my offer stands. Call me anytime if you need to talk to someone who has been there. I'm here anytime. Day or night. Sending Love your way. - Mike
Comment by Dan Brown on January 27, 2014 at 10:51pm

Tonight's the first night since Doug passed that I am going to TRY to sleep in our bed.  The entire 11.5 years we were together we only spent two nights apart. I'm feeling alone and nauseous. I put the shirt he wore his last day, on his pillow. It won't be the same, ever again, but it's all I have.   I want to go to sleep, dream of him, and never wake up.   I'm considering getting up and bringing a pup to bed. We never let them in here, but some company might help. I know everyone says it'll get better, but I just want it to not have happened. I'm sure that's not very helpful to my mental state, but I don't care. 

Comment by Dan Brown on January 25, 2014 at 12:24pm

Tonight is Doug's memorial.  I'm trying to tell myself today is no worse than yesterday or the day before.  He's no more gone today than any other day this past week.  But I can't seem to make the tears stop.  I thought yesterday was going to be an ok day.  I sat home with the pups and didn't cry as much as I thought I would, then last night it just hit like a ton of bricks and hasn't let up. I know his friends and family will try to comfort me tonight, but saying goodbye, hearing his favorite pasty cline songs, seeing his pic and those of us, will break my heart even more, if that's possible. 


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