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Comment by Peggy Hill on April 4, 2012 at 2:43am

I know how you both feel but I promise you aren't going to forget your dad or your mom for that matter.  Just take a few minutes to sit down and remember the good times with them.  My dad's been gone 22 years and my mom 2 years and I have wonderful memories of them.  Doesn't mean that I don't wish they were here or that I had more time with them but I still remember how good my dad smelled when I kissed him goodbye when I left or how soft my mom's cheek was on my lips when I kissed her or how cool and soft her hands felt when she held mine.  I don't think I will ever forget those things.  Kayleigh and Jennifer, you're both in my prayers and in my heart.  It's such a sad thing loosing your parents.  It leaves a hole in your heart.

Peggy

Comment by Jennifer C. on April 3, 2012 at 7:40pm

Hi Kayleigh - I am going through the same thing. My Dad will be gone 1 year on May 3, and I lost him unexpectedly as it sounds like you did. I have been dreading the anniversary of his passing already for weeks. I thought the grief was getting better little by little over time and now the pain is really quite bad again. When I feel like I'm going to forget my Dad, I keep a journal of different times I want to remember, like when he taught me how to drive, some of the funny things he did, etc.

Comment by Kay on April 3, 2012 at 6:55pm

a little more than a year ago my dad was killed/Comitted suiside. My mom died 10 years ago. Today I just keep thinking about how a year ago I was making funeral arrangements for my dad's funneral. I really miss my dad, I am having a hard time beliving that my dad has been dead for a year. Sometimes my biggest fear is forgetting my dad, sense it has been 10 years sense my mom died it gets harder and harder to rember her. My dad was a really amazing person, he was a parimetic and voulenteer fierfighter, he helped a lot of people and was one of the most carring people that I knew.

Comment by Julie on March 19, 2012 at 2:31pm

I lost my father a year ago. My mother passed away a few years before that. It is an undescribable emptiness that is felt when both parents are gone; a sadness in the heart, mind, body and soul that never disappears. The pain never goes away and life does not get easier with time, rather we become more accustomed to living with the pain. To all the daughters and sons who have lost both parents...my deepest sympathy.

Comment by Deborah Parker on March 11, 2012 at 1:46pm

March 10 marked 2 years since my beloved mother, Mary entered the Kingdom. I miss her so much and our love has deepened in an amazingly spiritual way.  I have honored her with a blog "Mary's Matters" which shares the lessons I learned from her strength and determination!

Comment by Theresa LaSalle on March 10, 2012 at 8:09am

I'M 64 JENNIFER AND I FEEL THE SAME WAY AS YOU..MY MOM DIED

DECEMBER 2011.

BE GOOD TO YOURSELF.
THERESA 

Comment by Di on March 8, 2012 at 7:16pm

Jennifer, it is exactly three months ago today I lost my mom. She was 89, in failing health, so I thought I was prepared. But I miss her so much. My dad and brother had died a while ago so it was just the two of of us (plus my husband and three kids). I an now alone, no sibs, no parents. Even though she was old and frail, she had her mind, so I called her almost every day.I could always bitch to her when something went wrong and she was always on my side. She was my biggest cheerleader and the only person who actually worried about me and told me to take care myself. I dont know of anyone else who love me in that way except my parents (of course my husband and kids love me tremendously but it is different). I truly feel lost--it is as if I was thrown off a bridge, sounds ridiculous from a 53 year old with a family, but that is what it feels like.

Comment by Kathryn Sheffler on March 8, 2012 at 4:54pm

@Francine, No matter what age you lose your parents it is going to be difficult.  The fact that you had so many wonderful years to cultivate such a wonderful relationship with him is why losing him is so hard.  I lost my Mom when I was 20 years old and I feel the same way you do about her not being around for the milestones.  But when I lost my Dad in December it was a whole different ballgame.  No longer did I have that one person in my life that would love me unconditionally.  Parents are those stable figures in a child's life that you believe will live on forever.  They feel almost immortal, so when you are faced their immortality it's almost unbearable.  I hope that you find some comfort in them resting in peace and they are watching over you from above.  I know it's hard to think about it sometimes, but it will get easier, I have to believe that.  I recommended the book The Orphaned Adult by Alexander Levy to another poster, but you may find it helpful too.  I'm only midway through the book, but it's put a lot of things into perspective for me.  If you read it, I hope it does the same for you.  My blessings and good luck.

Comment by Francine Ferrara Boyle on March 8, 2012 at 2:56pm

I lost my mom when I was 13, 41 year ago. I lost my dad this past September, almost 7 months ago. I am not sure which was worse.

Losing a parent at such an young age I never really got to know my mom. I just missed not having her there to share all the happy moments in my life; my wedding the birth of all my children, especially my triplets. I missed her at all the sad times in my life also, especially the day I watched my dad take his final breath.

I had my dad till he was 91, you would think his death would have been easier for me to cope with, but it wasn't. I miss him every minute of everyday.

I realized my own mortality when I lost my dad. Someday my children will be posting words of sorrow and morning, it is all so very sad..

Comment by Renee Harroun on March 8, 2012 at 2:39pm

@ Kathryn Sheffler thank you for letting me know about that book I have not yet lost my father just feel like it might be coming more sooner than later... he is not in the best of health due to many years of smoking and working in a factory for 30 years.

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