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I just wanted to say how sorry I am for all your losses. I hope everyone is able to make the most of their holiday season.
I lost my sister in October (she died on the 15th) she was only 21 years old and had her whole life ahead of her. I only found out yesterday what happened to her; she apparently was hanging out with some friends and took some methadone, not a lethal dose, but enough to cause her to pass out and then she had an asthma attack while she was unconscious. I feel better knowing what happened, but at the same time I almost wish I didn't know. I don't feel anger towards her yet, but I'm afraid that when the shock of her loss wears off then I will be upset with her for doing something so stupid and tearing herself away from me and my mom. I feel like my whole world has gone dark. I can't imagine living the rest of my life without her, but I know I have to be strong....for my mom at least.
(I am sorry I noticed I made a typo in my last comment, my sister died on Oct 15...not 25th)
This will be the 3rd Christmas without my brother and it's no easier ...I have been in counseling for over 2 yrs and have made progress but I'm so tired..I feel like my whole family is wearing a mask just like I am..I'm just mentally broken..I pray for all of us......
I am so sorry for all of your losses. I lost my brother to suicide in February. This is my first holiday season without him, this week was my first birthday (that I remember, he was 3 1/2 yrs. younger than me) without him. He was always a night person, so when I would get up in the morning , on my birthday, his would usually be the first happy birthday message to me on Face Book, this was the 1st time it wasn't there and I still kept looking for it. I guess all of the *firsts* are always the hardest. I just miss him so much.
I am so sorry for your losses. I do hope you find some joy this Christmas. Our pastor says that "this side of heaven is so hard" but we will understand why these thing happen once we are in heaven.
Today is my sis-in law's fifth angel day. She was my best friend. We lost her after a long, hard fight with breast cancer. Then, just 15 months later her husband, my sweet brother died unexpectedly. My niece is young to be without her parents. I try to be the best aunt I can, but she so misses her mommy & daddy. My heart still aches with loneliness without the precious relationship I had with each of them. I know their deaths were God's plan, but this earth gets more lonely each year. Tomorrow (the 6th) is my aunt's 7th angel day and the 8th of Dec is my youngest cousin's 6th angel day (pancreatic cancer). Plus, my daddy the same year as my brother 8 weeks apart, and my favorite uncle the following year. All the empty chairs at family gatherings really hit me hard. It hardly seems worth the effort anymore. My mom & I will travel to spend Christmas with my daughter and her family including my wonderful granddaughters. That will help.
Not doing good this holiday season. Thanksgiving was bad in the morning - missing my sister Ali so much! It has not been a year yet, and I just don't know if I can make it Christmas. The last time I saw her was last Christmas and we laughed, watched movies and cracked up laughing. This year, no, no Ali. I am going home to visit parents and now sure how it will be. I just want the holidays to pass already. I want my sister back (I know, its not possible) I am having hard time talking about her and I just don't want to. How do I help my parents get through this while getting through it myself? I know I am not the only one having hard time this season...
Thank you all so much for your kindness and support. I came on this website the day after I found out about my sister (posting on here seemed, at the time, to be the only way to make it real). I cant tell you how much it has helped to hear from and talk to people going through the same life altering situation as me. To be honest I am terrified of the coming holidays, its so close to when my sister passed (October 25th) that I still can hardly believe its real and I keep worrying that its just going to hit me one day and I will collapse or freak out. I just miss her so much and i don't want to believe her whole life is over. It isn't fair she was so young and had so much to live for. Why am I still here and she isn't? I know no one can really answer that, but I feel like I need to say it. I will be thinking of all of you this holiday and sending my strength and good thoughts to you all. Thank you again and again for just being here and letting me get these thoughts off my chest without judgement or pity, but with understanding and compassion.
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