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Started by amber casey Dec 16, 2012.
Hi, I'm new. I thought I might try and find someone who has shared the same experience as me: my dad committed suicide 3 years ago and my sister did the same 2 months ago. My family acts like nothing has happened, and has even excluded me because I'm sad, and they just want to "move on". So I'm grieving alone. Is there anyone in this forum who has gone through the same terrible experience? I could use some empathy...
thanks to the people who shared their story. I still have another younger brother and I worry for him as well. My perception is he is doing this all alone and has much pain. He is all i have left and we too are close so. Just sitting here starring at the urn and thinking how could this really be? Life is just so cruel and the world seems so dark sometimes. My faith has really been questioned over the past 67 days. Im trying to ground myself, but also allow myself the time to accept and adjust. I know i have a very long road (if ever) until i can start to accept he is not coming back. I always felt okay about death and being spirtual I didnt see why not. Now i am wondering about the meaning of life all over again. Support is key for me right now. I have 2 grief counsellors and , but they both agree only time can really help me. I was thinking i would write a letter to my brother and send it up in the sky. Does anyone have any ideas on letting go later?
Sorry for your loss Jennifer. There is no right or wrong way- just whatever helps. Lost two sisters in the last 3 years- the most recent in January of this year and her death was sudden and unexpected. Had to wait for the cause also-it gave us the how (an obstructive bronchitis) but it will never tell us why she died so young- (only 45). My other sister passed in 2009 at only age 48 after a 3 year cancer battle -so for her we knew it was coming but that still doesn't help to prepare for the feelings of loss. It comforts me to think that wherever they are-whatever they are doing now- they are not there missing us. Or, what kind of an afterlife would that be? The pictures I have of them as happy, healthy and enjoying their lives also give me comfort. It reminds me that even though both had suffering in their lives, they also had a lot of joy. These things help me to cope. So, sharing -hope it helps.
I added my story under another comment so not sure where to post. My little brother passed away 66 days ago. He was a very bad alcoholic and died suddenly in his bathroom . after 54 days there is no cause of death. Probably another siezure. Someone was always there if he had seizuere and this time - no one was. My dad found him dead. I have been trying to help my brother for 16 years with his drinking. he died 1 week after his 32 bday. So young and its just too much to think of sometimes. At age 5 he was molested by our neighbour fro 3years and he didnt tell us until he was 21 years old. The pain and shame led himt o booze and it killed him. I stuggle everyday to think i cant talk to him again. We were so close and he was such a big part of my life its so hard to not have him in it to be here and the fact that im not dealing with his problems has also left a void. I dont think you can get over death. People dont understand the pain im in. the sadness- what it has done to me. Ive been rocked by death many times. Ive never been so messed up from it before . I am looking to see how other people are coping as I am back to work and raising a 6 year old and just trying to get through the days. I have seen a medium. ( this helped restore m spirituality a bit). i just need to see what ideas anyone has for moving on?? thank you
I wrote this for my sister, change the she to "he", change the "name" the we to I---I know this is a little bit of what your feeling. Your journey is is unimaginable, all we can do is read and write to you. (((Amanda)))
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