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Comment by Nicole Tiara on November 27, 2012 at 10:42pm

I am 22 years old and just gave birth to my son July 19th of this year. May, 2009 I lost my mother to sepsis, she was 46. June of this year I lost my father to carcinogen sarcoma, a very progressive form of cancer. I grew up an only child so my parents were my best friends. My dad was looking forward to meeting my son immensely, it kills me how happy my son Logan would have made him and my mom both. I am strong for them, I raise him with everything I have learned from my parents. How does one get passed this? Will I ever be the carefree peppy person I once was? I have memories that make my heart smile and my eyes cry... I feel like screaming at the top of my lungs. Thank God I have Logan, he is my glue, without him I'd feel that I had no purpose. Both of my parents deaths came very fast and unexpected. I took care of my dad and he took care of me, we always look back and wish we could have done more... I have noticed physically I have intense anxiety and ocd symptoms, I am a working mom and have noticed it increases at work. My mom was always on my side and my dad could fix or save me from anything including myself... who am I now without them? My dad was on my cellphone plan i have his phone still turned on and i txt him pictures of my son... Whew just typing this makes me breathe a little easier.

Comment by Barbara Rieger on November 27, 2012 at 8:21pm

I lost my dad August 8, 1991 he had supraneucleus palsy. It was the same thing that Dudley Moore the actor from Arthur had. My dad was a singer and always won competitions and sing in bars. He knew lots of famous people such as the rat pack. I recall him saying he bought Jackie Gleason beers. One time when dad was in a singing competition the judges couldn't decide who should be picked as the winner either my dad or Dean Martin. He had that same kind of charisma and singing style.

My mom and dad met each other at a carnival. Mom was 15 years old and dad 17 years old. My dad told his friend just from looking at the back of my mother that he was going to marry her. They had gone together many years and always had a chaparone when they went out. Usually, my mother's older sister. Mom had tolerated a lot from my father. She had taught dad how to dance and with his singing, charm and good looks he was out all the time having a good time. He was asked to go to Hollywood with a cowboy band. My dad could sing all styles and never had a lesson. He was blessed. Mom was a dressmaker and could cook and bake to the point that people always remember her for all the pies she baked at Thanksgiving. She'd make pizza for dad's friends from the corner bar. Dad wanted his cake and eat it too. He had both until the day he passed. My mother tolerated a lot from him. At the end she told me that even that he did the things he did she was happy with him. She loved him and I was glad she told me on the telephone while she was in the hospital. I never thought I speak with her on the telephone again because of the circumstances. Mom passed on Monday Nov.19, 2012.

I will continue moving forward and living my life. I've had to endure a lot with some other issues that were truly uncalled for. My mom and dad loved my son Joe and considered him their 3rd child. My son was taken from me, mom and his dad who adopted him when my first exhusband suggested it. My dad was 76 1/2 and mom was 96 years old and 7 months when she passed. No matter how long someone has a parent it's we still only have one mom and one dad. I will continue to live life as best I can and try to enjoy every moment. That is until a wave hits me and the tears roll down my face.

Comment by Steve W Anonymous on March 20, 2012 at 8:02pm

The issue for me is on moving forward - Im seem to be stuck in a perpetually rolling wave of emotions, but still have things that should be done. However I never seem to get any good results since and during. I miss them both and would like them to be proud, but the more I do the more I screw up. I know it wont be this way forever but I dont know how to create a better whats next.

Comment by suezq108 on May 18, 2011 at 11:16am

I am 47 and lost both of my parents in the month of August, Dad August 1, 2008 and Mom August 10, 2010. It has been a total life changing experience for me and I am trying to adjust to being without them. I never really understood how it was for people until it happened to me. It is awful and sad not having parents anymore. Your whole life really does change. When they were both so ill, taking care of them got to be such a tiring job but I would take it back in a heartbeat tenfold to have them back! I feel for anyone else who is orphaned no matter what their age, there is no age on grief.

Comment by Victoria Romero on January 11, 2011 at 11:10pm

I too was also orphaned on New Year's Eve, 2010.   My Father passed away first on July 21, 2010, 3 days before my birthday.   I watched him take his last breath in his hospital bed after battling colon cancer for over a year.  My whole family was with him when he went.   On July 11, 2010, 10 days before my Father passed, my Mother had a heart attack and nearly died, but survived.   She lived for 5 more months and passed away on 12/31/2010, New Year's Eve.  She went into the hospital on 12/27, my brother's birthday and found out she was losing blood.   She was given blood and underwent several tests, but the doctors could not find out why.  On New Year's Eve, she called everyone and told them she was going home on New Year's Day because the tests she had done could not find anything negative.   The nurse took her out in the hall to take a walk, and she collapsed.   By the time my siblings and I got to the hospital, they were perfoming CPR.   She passed 45 minutes later.  Her funeral was on my sister's birthday, 1/6/11 and her birthday was 1/10/11.   She would have been 72.   I miss both of them terribly.  I know they are in Heaven together watching over their family.   I will pray everyday for everyone who has experienced what I have in 2010.