Q. The love of my life died a few years ago after a long illness and was cremated. His sister kept the urn in her home. He was all she had and I felt I had to accede to her wishes. She planned to bury the ashes near her home. However, her company has now transferred her 2000 miles away and she wants to lay him to rest in the new location. I won’t be able to regularly visit the grave. There is a c…