Death. Unknowable. Unmanageable. Inescapable... Thus, the rules. Melissa Dribben reflects on the human need for security and order in the wake of death. Originally published February 2008 on Obit-Mag.com.   If having control over the course of your life is an illusion – and as sure as meningitis, cheating hearts and oil futures, you know it is – then trying to plot a course, post-mortem…