By Sarah York I frequently speak with people who say they do not want any services held when they die. One woman in her 90s told me just after attending a service for a friend, “That was a really nice service, Sarah, but I’m not going to have one of those when I die.” I smiled as I replied, “Eunice, you won’t be in a position to have much to say about that.” I went on to tell her that her fam…