"Wish I could help Cathy, but I am living on a small Government pension, and maintaining Bernie's two dogs. I do know exactly how you feel! How about phoning a few vets and asking if they would do a 'pro bono'?
I wish you and…"
"Barbara, thank you for your comment. I Tried clicking on your name to find out how and when you lost your son, but I have never had any luck getting info on profile pages, i was only able to read comments others have made. Can you tell me what…"
"Lisa-rockys mom-you wrote in your apology to Ilona that you "miss your kids and grandkids..".then you went on say you "really dont know why you have to be on this earth anymore there really isn't anything here for you…"
"I think grandparents have a double dose of grief. They lose their grandchild and suffer the pain of that and they hurt so much knowing their child is hurting and feeling the devastation of losing the child they loved so much. GrandParents have to…"
"Tanya, the best thing you can do for yourself is to talk about how you feel, whether that be here on this site or to family and friends. People that have not lost a child don't understand... And they never will....and no, they "can't…"
"That is the first thing I have read in 5 years that made me agree that I am still a mother...I love Erma Bombeck....she says it like it is! Hi all...Tami, Susan, Melinda...it's been a long time. But I still read and I still think…"
"Hey Tami, 3 years! Can you believe you have survived for 3 years without your baby??? When you think back to that horrible day and how you felt and how you just KNEW you weren't gonna make it without him, can you believe you are standing here…"
"Good to see you back on here CAthy. Yes it has been a long time. For sure the xmas joy has been robbed from all of us and I am sure you along with the rest of us will be glad when all the "hipe" is over....
I finally met up…"
"Hey all... Irs been a long time! This is my 5th Christmas without Jake...and although day to day life gets better with time, Christmas seems to get worse. It hasn't been the same, & never will be again! I truly hate Christmas now. It is…"
"Tami... I hope you didn't think I was ragging on you...we all feel sorry for ourselves at times and that's okay... We are entitled to feel that way. ;-) hugs and good thoughts coming your way from me!"
Wish I could help Cathy, but I am living on a small Government pension, and maintaining Bernie's two dogs. I do know exactly how you feel! How about phoning a few vets and asking if they would do a 'pro bono'?
Good to see you back on here CAthy. Yes it has been a long time. For sure the xmas joy has been robbed from all of us and I am sure you along with the rest of us will be glad when all the "hipe" is over....
I finally met up with Tami the originator of this site this year....it was really good to meet with her. Once again we are coming back to the desert in May and I will try and meet up with you. We travel with a group of people so it is hard to grab some time away but possibly a lunch might work. I will try and contact you before we leave.
dear cathy, 1 week and 1 day 2 yrs ago i lost dusty. i am hurting so bad. i cant think straight. i start a new job on monday and i just cant stand living without dusty. i hate life. i joined a new church and my pastor told me i was "worshiping dusty" and not God. I am GRIEVING dusty. of course like you, our children were our world. i guess in a way, we did worship them because they were our only children. i dont want to survive anymore, i am so emotionally tired and worn, i have no energy. i just want to let go. i love you my friend, valerie
hi cathy, good to see you back...i too, dont post often. just come here to read others postings. if i can send a positive message , i will. hope all is well with you, i think of you often. hugs, valerie
i still am just surviving. 2nd mothers day without dusty. unfortunately i have been unemployed for 6 weeks now. i have no health insurance and i am unable to pay for some of my medications. usually, when other issues bring me down, i begin to grieve more. so that is also going on. i know i just have to keep going or i wont be able to move on or get a job. i just have too much time on my hands, however also searching for a job. i pray my dear friend, that you also are doing well. your friendship means the world to me because you understand where i am. thanks for being there on the phone when i need someone special like you to speak with... love you, val
Dear Cathy, Thank you for responding and the gift of your friendship!
I agree with you about suicide being selfish but sometimes a person is suffering so much that all they can think about is relieving the pain!
In my beloved son Howie's case, he was suffering beyond belief with schizophrenia, and could not sleep for years! Life had become unbearable for my child and his abusive father was the last straw!
Please tell me your story about being left behind? I really would like to know and hope we can become friends! My precious son left me behind and yet he took me with him! My heart is beyond broken and no mere words can really suffice or do justice to the sadness I feel! Peace & Love ~God Bless You, Shari
Hi Cathy....glad you contacted me. Sorry about your sweet little dog and for sure she is up there with your son and husband. I truly believe that.
I have been as good as possible....you know how that goes. My husband had HUGE back surgery on March 4th so I have been taking care of him. We weren't allowed to travel so this would have been the week we were to go to Palm Desert. I was looking forward to meeting you. We have to wait now till OCtober to travel. I will for sure look you up.
Also glad you are going in a new direction of life. Really its all we can do to try enjoy what we have left here. Especially with both your son and husband gone and you seem to be full of positive energy and life.
It is amazing to read about all the posts of the new people on here. So much good comfort and good thoughts for everyone to read and think about.
I don't know what I would have done without such a site. Thank goodness for Tami. She had a great idea starting this site.
Hugs to you and we will keep in touch. Good to see you back here.