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My name is Janie. I've been looking for a place to share my pain and happiness with people who under…

My name is Janie. I've been looking for a place to share my pain and happiness with people who understand the loss of a child. My sons name was Richard, I called him Rich. He was 32 yr. old. He died Jan. 9, 2008, I thank the Lord everyday because He let me be at Richard's bedside at the hospice that early morning, He died at 12:11 AM. I hope thru this site some peacefullness can come with the sharing of our losses. Also on October 25, 2008, my sister's youngest son, 43 died. My oldest son, found… Continue

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At 12:49pm on November 26th, 2009, Dehuelbes said…
Hi Ms Janie.. I can't relate to the loss of a child, i'm but a child myself..17... but i hope i can bring you comfort.. please i an invite you to this
http://www.watchtower.org/e/20070501/article_02.htm

if you just copy it and paste it to your web engine it should work. It isn't a group to join, or to up the ratings, i just want you to read the article, please!
I know for a fact it will bring you comfort. I hope you get a chance to.

Sincerely,
At 12:50pm on November 21st, 2009, Kathy Mook said…
Hi Janie, 3 times I have tried to write back to you. First my computer updated and rebooted mid-sentence, the 2nd, my granddaughter hit a key and wiped it all out. I'll write you again when I get a few minutes away from her. Her Mom is working today and at 2 1/2, she's a handful. Friends. Kathy
At 10:34pm on November 17th, 2009, Tami said…
Hi Janie, I know what you mean about the hole in your heart, It is so hard to explain to others that have not been where we are... It is our first holidays without him and I would like to just curl up in a ball and sleep, but I know that wouldnt be good for me or the rest of the family, so I go on. I just wanted to pass on a little story about my best friends husband, he was a work aholic, I think he was around 23 when he started having bad back pain, he worked at Luckys food store stalking shelves, anyway, he went to the doctors and they said he probably pulled a muscle, so they gave him pain meds, the pain went away, then it came back with avengence, so he went back to the daoctors, this was a few months later, they gave him more pain meds. , this went on for over a year, I had seen him and felt bad because he always looked like he was in pain, well I went to her house one day and I saw him and I was freaked out, I actually had a panic attack I was looking at him and he looked almost like a concentration camp victim, I couldnt believe that the doctors didnt see this and that his own wife didnt see it, I had to go lay down at their house, thats how bad the panic attack was, I just told them I wasnt feeling good, so after about an hour, I left, I went home and I called my friend, I was crying and she asked if I was that sick? I said "No, Laura, I dont know what came over me, but I have this strong feeling that Tom needs to be seen by an Internist (sp)!" she was blown away, I said it was such an over coming feeling....so about two weeks later she called me to tell me that he had cancer and that it had spread through his entire body and that he probably only had a couple weeks left.... I was so mad at his doctors! i thought If I could feel this and they saw him all the time WHY wouldnt they do more???? If they wouldve checked early on they wouldve caught it, it started in his testicles, it couldve been removed, but they didnt, so when they finally tested him it was throughout his body. I hope this didnt hurt you, I just wanted to let you know that I have felt that feeling of not being able to pin point something that maybe couldve helped? I dont know if I wouldve seen himm sooner if I wouldve felt what I felt.
At 11:03pm on November 16th, 2009, Tami said…
Hi Janie, I think you go to the bottom of the page and it will say view all comments? Thats how I do it... It is so sad to see how many of us there is out there. These holidays are going to be really hard. I am the one cooking the Thanksgiving Dinner, I havent cooked or cleaned since my Son passed in June.... Needless to say Ive busy cleaning, One room at a time. I really dont want to do this, but it is my Daughters favorite holiday... Everyone else in our family wanted to go out to a resturant, My Father, who loved to cook Thanksgiving dinner passed away last year in July so there is mobody that wants to take the task on, So I stepped in...(What was I thinking!!!) But at least it will get me out of thiss slump I am in. Love to you and Rich and I will be thinking of all of us this holiday season.
XOXO
At 11:03pm on October 18th, 2009, Tami said…
Oh Janie, he is so HANDSOME! he is so tall! How tall is he? you say he passed in hospice so I am assuming he had cancer? I am so sorry Janie. It is right below where I am writing my comment. I dont know why it is easier for me when I am helping or talking to others about their loss, that is how I cope. I dont know what I would do If I didnt have someone that really knows the pain of losing a child to talk to. I have joined the Danny Dialogs on Yahoo too, I found this interesting, I also Highlighted the part that really made sense to me, Joey was acting so different a month before he left....

DEATH IS A MIRACLE

Channeled from Danny, December 2008:


Death is a miracle. People say birth is a miracle, and of course it is, because the system through which we come to earth through each other's bodies IS miraculous, but death is an equivalent miracle. In order for the cycle of birth/reincarnation/death to continue, there has to be a revolving door, a system of ingress and egress. It is a brilliantly designed system.

There is great labor in death, as there is in birth. It is not easy to die or to be born. It's a very long journey that cannot be measured in space or time, because it is a journey between dimensions. Before birth, the soul does not occupy the body, but is remotely attached, in a similar way that I am attached to you across dimensions. The soul knows that it has chosen that body, and so it's involved in the growth and nurturing of the fetus. Plans are made for that body before conception, before incarnation, about how it will be formed, whether or not it will be born, if it will be healthy or sick, whether the mother will survive childbirth, etc. There are a thousand possibilities. The soul is in a supervisory role, working in concert with the souls of the mother, father, siblings and others affected by the life of the soul about to be born. The body itself is on autopilot, focusing only on being formed, supported by the souls around it. It does not require the soul to be inside the body in a physical sense. The body is operated by remote control in a sense, until it is born, at which time it is required that the soul be completely integrated with it. The soul does not necessarily live "inside" the body in a physical sense, but is inside and outside at the same time, moving freely between the dimensions. This can't really be explained or measured in physical terms like "inside" or "outside." The soul (or soul family team) supervises the development of the body during gestation, but once the body takes its first breath, the soul becomes integrated, and cannot separate completely again until death. It can separate in a limited way, journeying away from the body through dreams, meditation, our-of-body or near-death experiences, but it is always connected by something that could best be described as a luminous fiber.

Dying is a mirror image of the remote relationship between the soul and the body during the conception, gestation and birth process. When a person is dying, the soul begins to separate, and sort of rewinds in the opposite direction of what it did during the birth phase. The soul starts moving toward the supervisory position again, toward remote control, peeling away from the indelible connection it had to the body during physical life. The soul starts to move back to the remote location, which is of course not a physical location in space, but a different dimension of vibration. When a person dies slowly, this process of gradual separation is very observable.

When a person dies instantly, the same thing happens, but it is not usually observable. This is a good illustration of the meaning of "metaphysical," in the sense that activity can be happening on more than one plane simultaneously and there is a bridge that connects the physical and non-physical worlds. When somebody dies instantly, the intention for that death has already been put into motion. The soul begins to separate from the body, hours, days or weeks before the event, because the soul knows its own intention and is already in the process of manifesting that intention. The body -- or the personality/ego -- is usually not aware of this, but that's not always the case. Sometimes there is awareness of an impending death.

You have heard stories about people who've died violently for example, who had premonitions of that death, or people who just happened to get all their bills paid or put their affairs in order a few weeks before dying in a plane crash. It is a subtle knowing… most of the time the person is not consciously aware of this. (I highlighted this because this is how it was with Joey) If you could talk to people on the Other Side who died suddenly, many would tell you of a subtle shift in their awareness or their behaviors in the hours, days or weeks prior to the death. All deaths, as with all births, are by agreement. For example, let's say a soldier dies in a war. The person who killed him, the people who witnessed his death, his family members and even the leaders of the governments sponsoring the war, are part of an alignment of persons, places and events that contribute to that death, in a sort of ripple effect. All these energies are aligning their intention for that moment, for a specific purpose… the expansion and growth of the souls involved in that particular event.


What do you think about it?
At 12:40am on October 18th, 2009, Janie said…

At 12:10pm on October 17th, 2009, Chris Edwin Dahl POMC MN said…
At 12:05pm on October 17th, 2009, Chris Edwin Dahl POMC MN said…
Jon died 11 days after turning 20, He would have been 34 today
October 17th, 2009, Chris Edwin Dahl POMC MN said…
Jonathan Michael Dahl born October 17, 1975- shot to death October 28, 1995 Last night I dreamed of him again With his dark secrets that caused him pain For a moment I thought (hoped) he had seen me Then he lowered his head I watched awhile, a tear rolled down my cheek Wanting to comfort him,wishing he could know How much he was loved by so many. I must Remember ,Life is for the living.
At 5:29pm on October 15th, 2009, PAM BRYAN said…
JANIE OH HOW I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL OH HOW WE COULD BE RICH IF WE KNEW HOW TOO TAKE THE PAIN AWAY,BUT ALL WE WOULD WANT IS OUR BABY BACK YOU CANT PUT MONEY ON THAT OH HOW SPECIEL OUR CHILDREN ARE,NO PARENT SHOULD EVER HAVE TO GO THROUGH THIS,NEVER. MY THOUGHTS ARE WITH YOU, JUSTINS MOM PAM
At 8:48am on October 14th, 2009, PAM BRYAN said…
JANIE I ALSO FORGET A LOT OF STUFF. JUST HOPE WE GET THROUGH THIS,HAS HARD AS IT IS. WE DO HAVE TO KEEP GOING MY SON HAS TWO CHILDREN 12 AND 9 FROM ANOTHER MARRIAGE AND TWINS HE NEVER GOT TOO SEE THAT ARE 9 MONTHS A BOY AND GIRL HE DID GET TOO KNOW WHAT THEY WERE GOING TO BE,OH HOW HAPPY HE WAS,HE NAMED THE LITTLE BOY JANSEN, AND JANSEN LOOKS JUST LIKE HIS OTHER SON JIMMY AND THEY ALL LOOK LIKE THERE DAD EVEN THE GIRLS HOW SPECIL IS THAT. HANG IN THERE AND WE WILL HAVE OUR MOMENTS OF LOOSING IT AND THEN TAKE A DAY AT A TIME. THINGING OF YOU AND YOUR PRICIOUS LOST THERE IS NOTHING TO REPLACE THAT AND WE GOT OUR MEMORIES THAT NO ONE CAN TAKE AWAY. JUSTINS MOM PAM
At 1:22am on October 14th, 2009, Tami said…
Hi Janie, if you look above in the box that you leave your comment there is a little picture, you click on that and it will let you upload a picture, If you need more help email me at Atonsgirl@aol.com
I would love to see the pictures you have of Richard, If you have a memorial site you can send the web address so we can see it.
Hope you can load the pictures!
<3 Hugs to you
 
 

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