"Hi Joyce. Yes I too never received any sympathy cards. All I got was shocked faces and shaking of the heads and some people even walked away from me. I don't blame them, because it still shocks me that my son was so severely…"
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Gloria Callighan replied to Joyce M Rubacky's discussion Dealing with your loved one's actions. in the group suicide's survivors
Carin~ Cody's Mom replied to Joyce M Rubacky's discussion Dealing with your loved one's actions. in the group suicide's survivors"I just read your responce and it brought me to tears. You really think God was with our sons when they died? I hope so... one of my regrets is that I was not with my son when he died. He died alone and I feel like I failed my son because i…"
Joyce M Rubacky left a comment for LA-Greg"Greg, I completely agree with your statement regarding the importance to let them be what they are....something more than just a dream. When I experienced this, it was my reality at the time. There is no reason why I can not store it in my brain…"
Joyce M Rubacky left a comment for Donna Messerly"Hello Donna, Just wanted to check in and see how you have been doing this past year?"
Joyce M Rubacky left a comment for Sharon Fisher"I wish I didn't have to say this to you but, welcome Sharon! I hope you find peace and guidance here from these wonder people, just as I have found. Don't think twice about asking any quesions or even just voicing what you are…"
LA-Greg left a comment for Joyce M Rubacky"joyce, there are stranger things in heaven and earth than are dreamt of here, as they say. i had a strange dream about my father after he died where he was walking toward me thru a bright light, like a hallway, with strange looseifitting clothes and…"
Sharon Fisher replied to Joyce M Rubacky's discussion Dealing with your loved one's actions. in the group suicide's survivors"The God I serve is love and light and all things good. Our son, our only child also took his life 01/96 he was 17. For years I wrestled with the same question. Our son is with God. I have no doubt. I pray God will grant you peace. Peace that…"
Joyce M Rubacky commented on Donna Padilla's group suicide's survivors" I experienced a dream where my brother was actually in it. Up to 2 weeks ago, I only had dreams "about" him for the last 2 years. Those were very few and far between. In this dream I was outside my Mother's house walking towards…"
Gloria Callighan replied to Joyce M Rubacky's discussion Dealing with your loved one's actions. in the group suicide's survivors"Hello Joyce and/or Katerina: It is either this website or my computer, because everytime I try to reply I go to everyone else or computer freezes. Joyce you responded to me back on April 16, 2012! Where have I been that it's…"
Joyce M Rubacky replied to Joyce M Rubacky's discussion Dealing with your loved one's actions. in the group suicide's survivors"Katerina, I am humbled by your words
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Katerina Roussou replied to Joyce M Rubacky's discussion Dealing with your loved one's actions. in the group suicide's survivors"You are loved and you are not alone. Please take care of you and you will find the gift in your suffering."
Joyce M Rubacky replied to Joyce M Rubacky's discussion Dealing with your loved one's actions. in the group suicide's survivors"I want to thank you all for responding to my post. You are so very kind. I've come to realize that as surviors, sometimes we just have more questions than answers. And out of those questions, come more questions! May God bless you Margo,…"
Katerina Roussou replied to Joyce M Rubacky's discussion Dealing with your loved one's actions. in the group suicide's survivors"One night I was crying out to God in anger "where were you?". I was referring to my son's suicide in August of 2007.. In my heart I heard The Lord say "WITH HIM". That answered my question and brought me peace. You are loved!"
Katerina Roussou replied to Joyce M Rubacky's discussion Dealing with your loved one's actions. in the group suicide's survivors"Dear Joyce,
My 37 year old son took his life in August of 07. I also have a deep faith in God and was very angry both at my son for doing this and at God for allowing it, especially since I had prayed for his healing from depression for years. I was…"
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- At 12:25pm on April 15, 2013, LA-Greg said…
- joyce, there are stranger things in heaven and earth than are dreamt of here, as they say. i had a strange dream about my father after he died where he was walking toward me thru a bright light, like a hallway, with strange looseifitting clothes and hat and long like trench coat that all looked comfortable and matched his peaceful looking face and smile. then he was gone, but it seemed like him and seemed so real and i awoke suddenly almost shocked. later my mother told me about a dream she had of him, too. i hadnt yet told her about mine but as she proceeded to tell me about hers, she said how he was wearing a hat and this long coat... my heart started beating fast. i dont know how to explain this, especially since i dont really believe in an afterlife and im an agnostic. whether these things are enough evidence for us to change our views there or not, i think its important to let them be what they are...something more than just a dream that means much to us. we can never truly know what is after death. but we can know how the death of loved ones and family touches us, uproots us, changes our lives, and for the better, if we let it. so many days after losing my father to heartattack and my big brother to suicide 6 mos later i still awake depressed and so lonely. but reading ur post about ur seeing ur brother...i think u said brother...it touched me, made me feel less alone about all this death, this despair, this loneliness where no one else in the world has time or motive to talk about all this, or to share their strange and mysterious experiences and thoughts and feelings. i think i know what ur feeling. it can make u miss him more or bring up more of the same feelings angry and sad about his loss, but it also made u feel good. in a strange, new way. at least thats how this similar experience made me feel. i hope u can let that touch u...even when no one else seems to understand or care. i understand. i care. and take care. greg
- At 4:10pm on April 13, 2012,
Gary Williams said… Thank you so much, there is already a walk scheduled this year in San Antonio on September 30th. I will be getting with my church and the charity organization I belong to and getting their involvement, maybe even more. I would like you to post this to all so anyone else that wants to may get out and help. Our fundraising group is a 501C3 and part of an international group as well as one on the Texas state level. Suicide of teens in particular has been a focus ouf these groups since the increase lately. Thank YOU!
- At 3:29pm on March 6, 2012,
Donna Messerly said… @Joyce - I guess I stopped trying to describe how I feel to other people. Those who haven't experienced something like this often want to, but don't know how.
After so many losses in a row, I've finally learned to rely on myself and comfort myself. It is wonderful though to find someone who CAN relate.
- At 7:13pm on February 29, 2012, Donna Messerly said…
Joyce, I'm so sorry you lost your brother. My brother shot himself too. It seems so harsh to just come right out and say it . . . but then, it is important to speak in truths and lay it all out on the table sometimes. I'm pretty hard on myself for having these absolutely down in the dumps days. It has been exactly two months today. Certainly that cannot be enough time for the tears to dry? I don't know what normal is. I will try all I can though to accept a new normal and move forward.
- At 6:52pm on February 27, 2012,
Jerica Guerra said… Thank you for your prayers Joyce i really appreciate it especially today. Its actually his first birthday that he has been gone and my first birthday without him. It was very hard for me n of course i started crying. I know it gets easier but its still hard t deal with. This site or forum does helps me alot. i put my emotions everytime i could on here. it does help. My prayers goes out to u as well your family. Take care of yourself and stay in touch. :) *hugs*
- At 6:52pm on February 27, 2012, Jerica Guerra said…
Thank you for your prayers Joyce i really appreciate it especially today. Its actually his first birthday that he has been gone and my first birthday without him. It was very hard for me n of course i started crying. I know it gets easier but its still hard t deal with. This site or forum does helps me alot. i put my emotions everytime i could on here. it does help. My prayers goes out to u as well your family. Take care of yourself and stay in touch. :) *hugs*
- At 6:52pm on February 27, 2012, Jerica Guerra said…
Thank you for your prayers Joyce i really appreciate it especially today. Its actually his first birthday that he has been gone and my first birthday without him. It was very hard for me n of course i started crying. I know it gets easier but its still hard t deal with. This site or forum does helps me alot. i put my emotions everytime i could on here. it does help. My prayers goes out to u as well your family. Take care of yourself and stay in touch. :) *hugs*
- At 6:51pm on February 27, 2012, Jerica Guerra said…
Thank you for your prayers Joyce i really appreciate it especially today. Its actually his first birthday that he has been gone and my first birthday without him. It was very hard for me n of course i started crying. I know it gets easier but its still hard t deal with. This site or forum does helps me alot. i put my emotions everytime i could on here. it does help. My prayers goes out to u as well your family. Take care of yourself and stay in touch. :) *hugs*
- At 6:51pm on February 27, 2012, Jerica Guerra said…
Thank you for your prayers Joyce i really appreciate it especially today. Its actually his first birthday that he has been gone and my first birthday without him. It was very hard for me n of course i started crying. I know it gets easier but its still hard t deal with. This site or forum does helps me alot. i put my emotions everytime i could on here. it does help. My prayers goes out to u as well your family. Take care of yourself and stay in touch. :) *hugs*
- At 6:51pm on February 27, 2012, Jerica Guerra said…
Thank you for your prayers Joyce i really appreciate it especially today. Its actually his first birthday that he has been gone and my first birthday without him. It was very hard for me n of course i started crying. I know it gets easier but its still hard t deal with. This site or forum does helps me alot. i put my emotions everytime i could on here. it does help. My prayers goes out to u as well your family. Take care of yourself and stay in touch. :) *hugs*
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