"Nancy, you truly have survived some of the worst life has to offer so let the anxiety go, you can do what ever it is you need to do. you are more than a survivor you are an AMAZING WOMAN and I am so honored to know you!"
"Jane first of all breath!!! It is not your fault. There are no shouda, coulda woulda's it is what it is. If he were meant to go to the dr he would have and it he was meant to still be here, he would be, God does not punish, he is a…"
"Karen, we will be here for you when the flood gates open, I think the first 4 months you are in total shock and then the pain is absolutely cutting to the core. For me that is how it was at least and now I am slowly moving toward my guys. Last…"
"Bruce, I have had the tube taken out so I am good now. (nephrostomy ) bag came open while I was sleeping 4 times and i kept forgetting to as the visiting nurses for the absorbant pads. I was 3 weeks of torture the first 10…"
"Nancy, I had a freaking kidney stone and was terrified, I get where you are coming from and those are your emotions OWN them and then learn and move on from them. Take your walks but slow down, do you have pain meds? Nancy I was gone for a bit…"
"Steve, by you setting this group up your wife's legacy will live on forever!!! I am so sorry, Ihave been out of hte loop with surgery and all so sending you belated hugs on the angelversary of your dear wife and such a short time of…"
"Nancy, my sister had breast augmentation and she hated them at first!!!! they were to high and were very unnatural after about 3 months things began to look more normal and now they are works of art...LOl mine hang to my belly button... LOL hope you…"
"Faith, I am so sorry, but every time you tell him you love him he hears you. I am an aide for the Franciscan sisters and they told me that our family are more aware of what we are doing now more than when they were physically here. They…"
"Elizabeth, I am 7 months and I still have tears everday. You see I lost my 21 year old son 6 years ago and have done the bargaining, the coping and such so I am a bit further ahead then most as my son was able to cross his dad…"
"Karen, you are still numb and in shock, the one thing you do have to do is to remember to breath. That is the only thing that is important right now. I am so very sorry and that first month or two the pain is simply unbearable and…"
"Kris, I will be thinking of you on the 17th a very difficult day for many. My son was killed on father's day but the actual date is the 19 th but fathers day will forever hurt. Tuesday, my baby boy (he was 21 years old) will be gone 6…"
"Dear friends, I have been posting and then it gets lost. Hate that. Had my second surgery and was in quite a bit of pain last night so sent me reeling and missing my men so much. Nancy, you are my inspiration, but how come I have…"
"Jaime, it is up to you to be available to the older kids, if their grandma is still alive she will fill them in or her siblings. You need to learn to not sweat the small stuff and to just be loving and available, kids do not need more than…"
"Leeah, this is what griefwork is all about, sadness, loneliness, pain sorrow, and so many more emotions, anger, sickness tons of them. but for what ever reason God called him home, my son was taken from me the same way so I know how cruel this can…"
Julie, I can't imagine what you went threw. I am so sorry for your lost. You must be an exceptional lady, strong and someone to admire. You see I met Richie when I was 18 years old and he saved my life. I was a heavy drug user and he got me clean he was always by my side in good and bad. he gave me that white picket fence and a good life. I'm 50 years old and never been by myself. When ever there was a problem he knew how to take care of it. He even started my car in the winter for me so I didn't have to. He made my son who was 22 years old oatmeal every morning which was my sons favorite.I don't know how to live without him. He was the one who really knew me and loved me. My parents put me away when I was young didn't want no part of me. But Richie as good as he was always said that is your mother. The day after his funeral my mother called me a c--t and nothing but trouble since I was born.My tears are falling so much I Never told no one that before.My brother died of aids in 1987 and myparents wouldn't even let me say goodbye. Instead they called me up in the middle of the night and said I wouldn't bother you but your brother wanted me to call you. Now you some of the pain I feeling and the big hole in my heart, Thank you for listening even though I"m crying I feel a lot better. Thank you so much.Your words of wisdom will always stay in my heart.
Thank you, Julie I will try my best to be positive. And there are days I am but there are days I feel sorry for myself. I have no family of his or mine so it all builds up inside. And I think my friends don't want to talk because they know it will upset me.
Julie, just went to your site. I can't stop crying for you. I can't even imagine what you go through everyday. So many people that I have met on these posts have humbled me. Wonderful people including yourself. I will pray for you and we will get to the next step together with each others help and support. We can and will learn a lot from each other. Thank you so much.