Lisa,

So sorry for you loss.  If you ever just want to vent or someone to chat with you can send me a friends request on FB (Kathi Williams Wright- Paradise calif)  I don't sleep well and am usually on the computer..so private message me there if you ever just want to talk.  <3

Lisa,  So sorry that this is a place you had to find us.  I lost my 28 yr old son Apr 15, 2010.  Give yourself time to grieve, dont let others make you think your crazy and talk about it.  Dont hold the feelings inside.  Cry and let yourself feel the pain.  I saved the clothes my son died in and put them inside one of his winter hats.  I open it and can smell my son.  It helps to have that and was so much help in the first year.  I slept with it for a long time.  I use his favorite blanket every nite.  We have all of his posters, mementos and such, displayed in our bedroom.  Counselor told us to make a memory book; that was after only a few months.  We bought all the stuff for it, but just now feel like I can do that.  You must give yourself time.  It doesnt ever go away but I think it has gotten easier; at least I only cry every few days and until 6 months ago, I cryed all the time.  No one can know what you are feeling; only you, but I do know how hard it has been for me and everyday is a struggle. I havent been able to sleep more than a couple hours a night every since I lost my Rocky.   We are here for you, if you need someone to talk to.  Prayers for you.

Welcome...I am sorry you are here.

Martin

Lisa,

I'm so sorry about the loss of your son.  Please know we are all here for you anytime of day or night when you need to talk.

It's been 16 1/2 months since I lost my daughter and I found this site within a couple of weeks, it's been a life saver for me. 

Also, I bought a journal and wrote to my daughter a lot in the beginning and that seemed to help and there are lots of good books that other members had recommended.

I found, I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye, to be the most beneficial for me.

Sending hugs,

Terri