"friday was the 1 year anniversary of my husbands passing. the company that he worked for had a tree planting ceremony for him. it just opened up the wound again. i cried through the whole thing. just when i start to think that i am getting in a…"
"i too lost my husband after 5 years of marriage. he passed on march 9,2011. january 6th would have been our anniversary. i dreaded looking forward to spending that day alone. my husband enjoyed collecting wine. i had saved a favorite bottle that he…"
"reading all of these comments about dating again made me smile. i lost my sweet hubby almost a year ago. i have gone on a few dates and i must say that topic of conversation always went to what a great guy my hubby was. i'm sure they did not…"
"robert...i also started a journal when my chuck passed. i started it the day of his memorial. i called my book " letters to chuck ". everyday i would write him a letter and tell him the things that were on my heart. it helps to get those…"
"for me wearing my wedding ring is like still having some kind of connection to him. when i look at it i still see him putting it on my finger. it is a symbol of love and commitment and i still have that for him. i also had the girl that cut his hair…"
"it truly amazes me at the things people say thinking that they are helping. i still wear my wedding rings and had someone ask me shortly after chucks death why i still wear them. what??? just because he is no longer here doesn't mean that he is…"
"susan, i know exactly what you are feeling. i feel the same. it seems that the longer time goes by the harder it is to get through the day. sometimes i want to give up. there is no joy in life anymore. feel dead inside. when my husband died a…"
"I'm sorry for your lost, but I do have to admire you for trying to go away. I tried just to go out to a diner by myself at a diner early so I wouldn't feel funny. I started to cry I had to ask wrap it up to take home and still…"
"this past week was especially hard. i had our anniversary...my first without my husband..plus the 10 month mark of his passing. everyone seems to think that i should be " getting over it ", but the pain is still fresh. i have not slept a…"
"deborah...it is wonderful that we can come here and let out emotions that we know others are going through or have experienced. it truly is a long road none of us ever wanted to be on. however we are on it. i have some of the most beautiful…"
"debbie...i listened to the song that you posted. how perfect! there is a song by lady antebellum called never alone. the words of the song are basically what my husband told me before he passed. i listen to it when i feel low...which happens to be…"
"i find it sometimes funny that everyone has an opinion about what we should be doing and how to do it. i have been told so many things. no one knows unless you have been through it the sheer anguish that you feel. the emptiness that you feel.…"
I'm sorry for your lost, but I do have to admire you for trying to go away. I tried just to go out to a diner by myself at a diner early so I wouldn't feel funny. I started to cry I had to ask wrap it up to take home and still couldn'teat all I did was cry.
I know that feeling, if you read some of my more recent posts you will see I am faced with the same uncaring or perhaps just plain ignorant spew from my siblings. Some seem to think they will be OK if they should loss their spouse because they have a large life insurance policy. They know so little about real love you have to wonder if they ever really experienced it.
Welcome to our group, I am so sorry you are here with us. I, too, lost my spouse to lung cancer, my Rose was not quite 56 yrs old when she passed 2 days after thanksgiving 2010. We had been living together for 31 yrs, since just after my 18th birthday and married for 30. Not that it matters how long you have been together when you truly love someone and you lose them the hurt is still the same.
Thank god for your son and his support but you need more then that. Is there a member of the clergy or a counselor or doctor that can impress upon your siblings that you need their help? You can always come here to vent, talk, read, or whatever helps you.