"You are all so right. Losing a parent is a terrible loss, but we seem to deal with it on such a different level. Losing your spouse is a whole different ball game. I lost my Mom to Alzheimer's in December 2010. She…"
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"You are all so right. Losing a parent is a terrible loss, but we seem to deal with it on such a different level. Losing your spouse is a whole different ball game. I lost my Mom to Alzheimer's in December 2010. She…"
"Good Lord Ellen. It seems like once we lose our loved one we either fall apart physically or something terrible happens to us. How do you deal with all the trauma of learning to walk again and deal with your loss? I…"
"Good Lord Ellen. It seems like once we lose our loved one we either fall apart physically or something terrible happens to us. How do you deal with all the trauma of learning to walk again and deal with your loss? I…"
"Thank you Jane for your kind words. Does everyone have trouble sleeping? I cannot sleep in our bed for more than an hour at a time. Since I've been sick I have been staying in the family room on a futon. So, I sleep 2-3…"
"Thank you Jane for your kind words. Does everyone have trouble sleeping? I cannot sleep in our bed for more than an hour at a time. Since I've been sick I have been staying in the family room on a futon. So, I sleep 2-3…"
"Thank you all for your kind words. At last I feel like I am where I should be and can talk openly about how I feel without judgement. To finally be able to have someone else truly understand what I feel. Richard was my heart and…"
Fred Dunn left a comment for Marie Strack"Marie,
I lost my best friend and soulmate of 32 years (she was 19 and I was 20) and we started living together immediately. We were officially wed August 29, 1980 but were together from December 8, 1976!
She and I were working and doing well when…"
Fred Dunn left a comment for Marie Strack"Marie,
I lost my best friend and soulmate of 32 years (she was 19 and I was 20) and we started living together immediately. We were officially wed August 29, 1980 but were together from December 8, 1976!
She and I were working and doing well when…"
"I lost my husband Richard almost 7 months ago and it still feels like yesterday. A "friend" at work told me it was time to get over "the poor me's" but I can't. A firend who was widowed over 18 years ago says it get…"
"I lost my husband, best friend, my life almost 7 months ago and it still feels like yesterday."
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- At 9:01pm on November 5, 2011, Fred Dunn said…
Marie,
I lost my best friend and soulmate of 32 years (she was 19 and I was 20) and we started living together immediately. We were officially wed August 29, 1980 but were together from December 8, 1976!
She and I were working and doing well when she started having pain when she woke up, then it became full time. She worked for a slong as she could and even tried going back to work (she was a Registered Histologist) amd worked in the medical field closely with pathologists and surgeons. They recognized her symptoms as either advanced Fibromyalgia or Multiple Sclerosis.
I took care of her the best I could while working ful time (although since I was working for the University of Texas health Science Center my directors and all the way to the presidents office helped when they could).
It was after a change in her pain meds that about a week later she died in her sleep. I tried my best to bring her back but her skin was already clammy and she did not respond, she died on May 31st, 2007.
Don't let anybody tell you to stop feelong sorry for yourself because you are carrying a burden that will last the rest of your life. I still wake up either thinking Rose is laying next to me or even talking to her thinking she is physically there. It takes a good 5 minutes for me to realize that she is not with my physically.
I like to think that she has passed from Gods hand of life to his hand of eternity. We are all in Gods hands and a part of his plans and when it is your turn you too will pass into Gods hand of eternity and be forever reunited.
By all means this doesn't mean that you should make that happen, although God is an all forgiving God and understands your pain.
When I drive which is seldom now that I am disabled with a neurological condition that I have had since I was 13 (but it got to the point where my coworkers were seeing it and I wasn't. Subsequent tests revealed it had gotten much worse. It is TBI and uncontrollable seizures) I always say prayers and then my mantra all through the drive is "We are all in Gods hands and a part of of his plans", "We are all Gods children and basically want the same things" (this one I say more when people are driving reckles around me or honking at me), and finally "I am not to judge but be judged" (this one is my means of not getting upset at people when they do things that upset me).
Don't let ANYBODY try to force you to just "get over it" because your memories, both good and bad are your gift from God.
God bless,
Fred Dunn
PS - I can't help but sob when I write these notes. ;-)
- At 9:01pm on November 5, 2011, Fred Dunn said…
Marie,
I lost my best friend and soulmate of 32 years (she was 19 and I was 20) and we started living together immediately. We were officially wed August 29, 1980 but were together from December 8, 1976!
She and I were working and doing well when she started having pain when she woke up, then it became full time. She worked for a slong as she could and even tried going back to work (she was a Registered Histologist) amd worked in the medical field closely with pathologists and surgeons. They recognized her symptoms as either advanced Fibromyalgia or Multiple Sclerosis.
I took care of her the best I could while working ful time (although since I was working for the University of Texas health Science Center my directors and all the way to the presidents office helped when they could).
It was after a change in her pain meds that about a week later she died in her sleep. I tried my best to bring her back but her skin was already clammy and she did not respond, she died on May 31st, 2007.
Don't let anybody tell you to stop feelong sorry for yourself because you are carrying a burden that will last the rest of your life. I still wake up either thinking Rose is laying next to me or even talking to her thinking she is physically there. It takes a good 5 minutes for me to realize that she is not with my physically.
I like to think that she has passed from Gods hand of life to his hand of eternity. We are all in Gods hands and a part of his plans and when it is your turn you too will pass into Gods hand of eternity and be forever reunited.
By all means this doesn't mean that you should make that happen, although God is an all forgiving God and understands your pain.
When I drive which is seldom now that I am disabled with a neurological condition that I have had since I was 13 (but it got to the point where my coworkers were seeing it and I wasn't. Subsequent tests revealed it had gotten much worse. It is TBI and uncontrollable seizures) I always say prayers and then my mantra all through the drive is "We are all in Gods hands and a part of of his plans", "We are all Gods children and basically want the same things" (this one I say more when people are driving reckles around me or honking at me), and finally "I am not to judge but be judged" (this one is my means of not getting upset at people when they do things that upset me).
Don't let ANYBODY try to force you to just "get over it" because your memories, both good and bad are your gift from God.
God bless,
Fred Dunn
PS - I can't help but sob when I write these notes. ;-)
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