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Every thing you are saying, every thing you are feeling..they are perfectly normal. Your therapist was right on the money when they told you to feel your grief. Do it. I do it all the time at home. I am an introvert too,…"
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Paul Bowers replied to Katie's discussion Holidays in the group Gay and lesbians who have lost partners
Paul Bowers replied to Katie's discussion A sudden loss in the group Gay and lesbians who have lost partners"You are doing the right things, and it is perfectly normal to feel as you do. I still find most of my days are spent doing as little as possible and not wanting to interact with the rest of the world. You will meet people and friends who in trying…"
Paul Bowers replied to Katie's discussion A sudden loss in the group Gay and lesbians who have lost partners"Hi Katie
Thank you for telling a bit of your story. A loss is hard, more than hard, indescribable. If you have never had a major loss in your life, there are no words one can offer to really ease the pain. I know that's not what…"
Paul Bowers replied to Marlon Frederick's discussion Moving on is so hard! in the group Gay and lesbians who have lost partners"I'm very sorry to hear of your loss. I just recently lost my partner of 23 years this past September. It is not easy to move forward at times. I am not at the point where I want to actively seek out others for outings and so forth. Right now I…"
Paul Bowers replied to Glicerio Moura-Tebbe's discussion It hurts! in the group Gay and lesbians who have lost partners"Glicerio-
I am very sorry to hear of your partner's passing. This is a very painful time and no amount of words will help to ease it. Please know that there are so many of us who are going down this path with you. We understand the…"
Paul Bowers replied to Jerry Matheny's discussion 7 Months ago. . . in the group Gay and lesbians who have lost partners"Hi Jerry
I want to tell you how sorry I am for the loss of your partner. It is like a knife going deep into the center of your soul, excruciating, and unfortunately we are left to live and feel every bit of it. I lost my life partner of…"
Darrell Sours left a comment for Paul Bowers"Hey Just wanted to check in and say hello. Hope you are doing OK."
Darrell Sours left a comment for Paul Bowers"Hey Paul. I want to offer my condolences to you on the loss of your partner Mike. I lost my wonderful partner Homer back in February. In fact Monday the 9Th was eight months since he passed and it would have also been our 31st…"
Scott Hankins left a comment for Paul Bowers"I have lost two husbands and even though its been a year still very fresh. I can understand being lonely. Night time was always the hardest. I can always trick my mind during the day but when it comes to bed the truth is there. I spent many…"
Paul Bowers left a comment for Scott Hankins"Thank you for your reply Scott. I will be turning 51 next week, and this is the first time I have really been alone in my entire life. I am scared, but most of all so incredibly lonely for the one person who knew me the best. Thank you…"
Scott Hankins left a comment for Paul Bowers"Hi Paul just read your message. It is the worst at first. I can not say the pain will ever go away but each day will get easier. All of your feelings are normal. Crying will continue for a long time it happens when u least expect it. Support is very…"
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- At 9:33pm on October 13, 2012, Darrell Sours said…
Hey Just wanted to check in and say hello. Hope you are doing OK.
- At 8:57pm on October 11, 2012, Darrell Sours said…
Hey Paul. I want to offer my condolences to you on the loss of your partner Mike. I lost my wonderful partner Homer back in February. In fact Monday the 9Th was eight months since he passed and it would have also been our 31st anniversary also. I can't even put into words how much I miss him. We met on October 9Th 1981. So we always called that day our anniversary because we basically moved in with each other right away. He was a soft hearted, kind man. I can't put into words how much I miss him.
I wish I could offer you so great words of advice on how to deal with your loss but I don't have any. As I mentioned to someone else on this site I guess it gets better with time but it is not something I think you really get over. I have been talking to my guy since he passed several times a day sometimes I think I feel his presence but I'm not sure it could be just wishful thinking. It helps me though just to talk . I am also thankful that Homer was with me all of those years. I thank God for that everyday because Homer and I truly loved each other and true love is so hard to find in this world. I was blessed. It sounds like you and Mike really cared for and loved each other also.
I doubt if I was much help to you but please to feel free to reach to me anytime. Take care Paul.
- At 11:15pm on October 10, 2012, Scott Hankins said…
- I have lost two husbands and even though its been a year still very fresh. I can understand being lonely. Night time was always the hardest. I can always trick my mind during the day but when it comes to bed the truth is there. I spent many sleepless nights watching tv and still do some nights. Animals and family have always helped. Feel free to write whenever you need.
- At 10:11pm on October 10, 2012, Scott Hankins said…
- Hi Paul just read your message. It is the worst at first. I can not say the pain will ever go away but each day will get easier. All of your feelings are normal. Crying will continue for a long time it happens when u least expect it. Support is very important. Its okay to be alone but be sure not be alone all of the time. Just take it one day at a time.
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