"Hi Michelle. You have my deepest sympathy. My wife Rhonda passed away 11-23-11. Our 21st wedding anniversary was five days after her funeral. I like you didn't think I could survive it. Of course it was awful, theres no reason to pretend on…"
"Julie, yes I'm sorry to say Rhonda passed on 11-23-11 also. In the evening. Our kids and I were with her. I havn't awaken from the nightmare yet. You know I'm beginning to think that the only thing that might help someone get through…"
"Hi Julie, so sorry for all that your going through. I'm coming up on nine weeks, and the last couple of days I've just slipped backwards. Not that I was doing that well anyway. My doctor prescribed a pill called Zanex. It does help get you…"
"Vee - Guilt / regretes whatever you want to call it will do a number on you. I've really been struggling with it. I just wanted to tell you that although you may blame yourself for not being there when he died, I know that Lawrence doesn't…"
"Julie, just saw that you and I both lost our dear spouses on the same day. So we have an awful connection in addition to everything else. Have any of you out there found that your way more in tune to and empathetic to others when…"
"Susan, and Shannon, you'll be in my prayers tonight. 3 weeks, 1 Month, Such an incredibly tough time. It's been eight weeks for me since I lost my wife, and a can tell you that it is better today than a month ago. Not good of course, in…"
"Joanna - About the only thing I've come to know for sure in the eight weeks since my wife passed away, is that only those who have lost the love of thier life can understand what we are going through. All the others simply can't. So I,…"
"Robert, first I want to say sorry for loss I know there no words to ease your pain, but we as a group are here for you. And thank you for your kind words but the guilt is never going to go away. When Richie was in the hospital he told me to get his…"
"Jana, guilt has been a major struggle for me too. I believe that it is for most people in our shoes. I can tell by your words that you were an attentive, loving wife. If you could have done more you would have. We are all only human and didn't…"
"Carol - I have found that I've developed a lot of rituals since my wife died. One is that at the beginning and end of each day, when putting on or taking off her ring which I wear around my neck on a necklace, I slip her ring onto my baby…"
"Shannon - I'm so sorry! I know what you mean about the tears. I'm a "big strong man" and I've cried every day for seven weeks. Also the chest thing you mentioned and even difficulty breathing. There is definitely a very…"
Robert, first I want to say sorry for loss I know there no words to ease your pain, but we as a group are here for you. And thank you for your kind words but the guilt is never going to go away. When Richie was in the hospital he told me to get his clothes he don't want to die in the hospital I told I wasn't allowed cause I really thought he was coming home. The only thing is I was blessed I got to say goodbye and that I loved him. And the hospital kept pumping him with blood so my son is is 24 now can say goodbye. There was so many things wrong with him. He was fine and then he had 2 heart attacks and found out he had a blood clot in his intestines and aneurysm in his aorta they took 3 feet of his intestine and he was still bleeding so they took his colon out and kept him open with a mesh in case they had to go back in. I saw them try to resaitate him and it was killing me to watch. But like I said the did everything so we could say goodbye. Thanks for listening I could on forever telling you things that happened in a months time. But I know your wisdom could be used with the group. God bless you Robert.