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Shirley Gutierrez
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Lisa - Rocky's Mom left a comment for Shirley Gutierrez"Thank you for your message. Its so nice that you have someone to talk to about your daughters. I unfortunately dont have anyone who knew Rocky to talk with about the person he was. My husband doesnt want to talk about him, it…"
Lisa - Rocky's Mom left a comment for Shirley Gutierrez"Will have you in my prayers Shirley. I lost my son April 15, 2010. It is so hard t believe still. I live for the days/nights I will have a dream of him. They dont come often but somehow they are comforting to me. I cant…"
David, Bernie's dad left a comment for Shirley Gutierrez"
Haven't seen you for a month, Shirley! Hope your two girls are chatting woth my Bernie on the other side. Thank God for his two dogs who keep me on my toes.
Have a peaceful Christmas,
David.
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Shirley Gutierrez commented on Kimm Bridges's album
CJ the Great (My Beloved Son Gone Too Soon)
"It is so comforting to hear you say that you are grateful for having had your son even though you lost him. I lost 2 of my 3 daughters to cancer in the past 3 years. I too am grateful to have had them for as long as I…"
Shirley Gutierrez commented on Tami's group Loss of a Child"I have a similar story to Janet's. My youngest daughter Lisa, recorded the message for me on our answering machine. I could always hear her voice if I wanted. Well, it's been a little over 3 years ago that she died. My husband…"
Shirley Gutierrez commented on Tami's group Loss of a Child"I am not sure either "if what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger" but it does indeed make you more compassionate. I remember when John Travolta & his wife lost their son also seeing grieving parents on TV who had lost their…"
Shirley Gutierrez commented on Tami's group Loss of a Child"In the past 3 years I have lost 2 of my 3 daughters to cancer. It has never occured to me to be mad at God nor anyone else. Instead of lamenting my losses I am just so grateful to have had my daughters for as long as I had them &…"
Shirley Gutierrez commented on Tami's group Loss of a Child"Dear Kathy,
Yes, we all "want them back. I would give up 10 years of my life to have my girls back for just one week. Unfortunately, "it ain't goin' to happen." I try to appreciate what I have left because at…"
Shirley Gutierrez commented on Tami's group Loss of a Child"Dearest Pat, I have lost 2 of my 3 daughters to cancer in the past 3 years. One died in France, both were cremated so as with you it is not possible to visit their graves. I had a bench made & set in cement in our local park…"
Shirley Gutierrez commented on Tami's group Loss of a Child"Joyce, thank you for caring. The girls I lost were Linda & Lisa. I have one surviving daughter, Lana. She lost not only both of her sisters but her 2 best friends as well. It's been a difficult 3 years for both of…"
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We were so happy.............
Posted on June 21, 2010 at 3:30pm 6 Comments 0 Likes
A few years ago on a day when our family was together, my 3 daughters and I discussed how everyone in the family seemed to be doing what they wished, & were where they wanted to be. My youngest daughter was married to a man she loved who was retired from an airline and did for her most anything and everything she wished. They did not have children and were free to travel as they pleased. They owned a home in California but were living in southern France, traveling at will with airline… Continue
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- At 10:41pm on March 1, 2013, Lisa - Rocky's Mom said…
Thank you for your message. Its so nice that you have someone to talk to about your daughters. I unfortunately dont have anyone who knew Rocky to talk with about the person he was. My husband doesnt want to talk about him, it is too hard for him, he says. This is just a really hard time of year for me. I appreciate your strength. Blessings.
- At 12:40am on February 28, 2013, Lisa - Rocky's Mom said…
Will have you in my prayers Shirley. I lost my son April 15, 2010. It is so hard t believe still. I live for the days/nights I will have a dream of him. They dont come often but somehow they are comforting to me. I cant imagine losing two children. I can barely contain my grief from losing one. I do think life just keeps going but mine seems to move a lot slower than others. Sometimes I cant stop the crying and others I catch ,yself having not thought of him in a few hours. I still feel guilty if I am not thinking of him but I knoww he would want me to move on...I find I want to move on as fast as possible...but I am stuck in this grief ridden nightmare. Each day is one day closer to seeing Rocky again. I lost my mother just 10 months after my son, on March 10, 2011. I worry that I cant grieve her death because I am in so much pain over my sons'. It is better than that first year though, isnt it? Really didnt think I was going to make it thru the first year. Anyway, I will add a special prayer for you. Sorry for rambling...guess I needed to get a bit off my mind. Thanks for being here.
- At 6:18pm on December 24, 2012, David, Bernie's dad said…
Haven't seen you for a month, Shirley! Hope your two girls are chatting woth my Bernie on the other side. Thank God for his two dogs who keep me on my toes.
Have a peaceful Christmas,
David.
- At 6:33pm on June 20, 2012,
Alicia Rodriguez said… - Hi Shirley how have you been? That is a very pretty picture of you're three daughters! I have been reading your post what elastic can we do but come here and.post our feelings God Bless You Alicia Jesse's Mom
- At 4:11pm on June 16, 2012,
Kaye said… Thank you for your kind wors. I have a younger son who is 35 now and he is a firefighter. Obviously it scares me silly. He lives her near me so I se him often and talk to him all the time. Its just we have had so much go on that I am terrified something is going tohappen all the time. I am sorry for your loss. I know God only loans our kids to us but this was just more than I can handle. It makes me sad that I was not there when he died. I didn't know he was sick. Kids dont tell you everything. I just do the best I can. Its just we have had so much death and misery in our family in the past few yeras its more than I can stand. Again, thank you for your kind words.
- At 7:20pm on June 9, 2012,
Phyllis Estes said… Also Shirley,
I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost one child, and I can't imagine that pain doubled. You have such a wonderful way of putting things...that really gives me some hope. I believe you are my newfound "hero."
~Phyllis Chads' Mom
- At 7:17pm on June 9, 2012, Phyllis Estes said…
I love your beautiful pictures of the peonies! Brightened my day. Thank you for sharing Shirley.
- At 3:14pm on January 19, 2012,
Robert Lowmiller said… Thanks, Shirley, Sorry to hear about your daughters. I have accepted it, but, it still disrupts my everyday life. I hoping with time it will settle down. Yes I miss them every day.
Rob
- At 3:05pm on July 20, 2011,
Susan - Donny's Mom said… I love your positive outlook....it really the only way we can recapture any joy left in our lives....
Hugs to you today and your daughter too.
Susan
- At 2:29pm on July 20, 2011, Susan - Donny's Mom said…
Thank goodness of your post today on the main site. I stay out of the posting when they get too negative. It is wonderful to hear of a positive message that we all can take to heart.
I am sure you feel the double loss as deeply as everyone else but I appreciate your thankfulness and positive thoughts on how to try and go on.
May peace and comfort be with you every day
Susan Donny's Mom
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