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I will pray for David, I am so sorry that your friend has to go through the same thing we are, but with her son. You are a good friend to ask us all to pray for him. I know things are tough for you, but at least you keep coming back. Take…"
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Diane C commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"Hi Christopher,
I am so sorry for you to be on this site. You are so new to your grief. I have been following your postings here and my heart goes out to you. Welcome to our site. It is the best place for you to be. The people here have helped me…"
Diane C commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"Hi Cheryl,
I am so glad for you that your son is home. But I am so SORRY for the circumstances.
You have such a postitive energy about the beauty in each day. I wish I had that too. This spring as I watch everything growing and blossoming, I am…"
Diane C commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"Hi Carol,
That would be so hard for me to work at the same place where Rich passed away. I want to go back to the Hospice hospital where Rich passed away, but I hang up the phone each time I try to call my bereavement counselor, to set something up…"
Christopher commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"Helen, I do the same thing. I'm always crying n the darn vehicle. Today is day #22 without my fiancé. I was taking a shower last night after my workout and I was thinking I really need to clean this tub. Then there was the corner with…"
cheryl holbrook commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"Well it is a beautiful day today (weather wise), the birds are just a chirping/singing and I got up, got dressed and was able to get some things done. I guess i have alot to be thankful for, I just dont always feel that way. I know my world was and…"
Helen Duncan Hutchinson commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"I also cry a lot in the car. I try to "put a face n " when I am our meeting friends for coffee (what a pointless exercise when you have done it a thousand timed but what else is there). Anyway, I get into the car and something…"
Helen Duncan Hutchinson commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"Charley. Thank you for thinking about me and sending me God's love. I am really struggling with faith at the moment. I suppose I have been for some time even before Morley's death. we were both scientists and…"
Charley Solyom commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"Cheryl. you know how to bring tears to my eyes. Nice verse. Helen, I hope that you have a great weekend coming up. I am praying for you. I don't understand life. Some stay, some go. Yesterday I read about two young ladies who were killed…"
Charley Solyom commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"Well that certainly brought some tears. I just don't understand, and when I go home, I want God to explain this whole thing to me. Yesterday I read about two young ladies who died tragically. Some go, some stay. It's a mystery, isn't…"
Carol Kayser commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"Dear Jan F. That is wonderful news!! Of course, he will be spoiled and happy and loved....as it should be! If at some point you would take a picture that would be amazing.
Hugs,
Carol"
Carol Kayser commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"Hi Diane C and Janeo - thanks, that means so much to me. Janeo, I caught the hug and it felt good!
Diane C - exactly, and it seems we are captive in our memories when we are in the car doesn't it? I know so many of us cry or have…"
janeo commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"Carol,
Here's a big hug for you.
Cheryl,
I was reading post about the letter from heaven, i was wondering if you could post again so I can read it. I would appreciate it.
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Diane C commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"Carol,
Sorry to hear you are having a rough time of it. Those darn days just come and go when we least expect them. I agree with everything in your post. Especially about the memories we conger up when we are driving. I use to cry all the way to and…"
Diane C commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"Cheryl,
Thanks for sharing the beautiful poem."
Jan F. commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"Carol, he is 10 days old now and the absolute joy of all our lives...he is a very good baby, so content...but then he would be, with his mommy, grandpa (my son) grandma, and 14 yr old Auntie, and me, to cater to his every wish...he is wonderful…"
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Just a quick note to thank you all for supporting each other. When I started this I would have NEVER thought this group would grow this big and have the amount of activity that it does. It's great to see you all supporting and helping each other. With 3 jobs it is hard to spend as much time as I'd like but it's good to know I don't have to spend a lot of time here administering things. Just remember I'm around if you need me. When something gets posted I do get an email and I will respond as soon as I get that. Thank you all for taking care of each other and remembering your loved ones here.
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- At 9:02pm on December 7, 2012,
Babs said… - I just realized I posted
I have read others post and it seems no matter whether the loss of our loved one is recent or years ago What I am feeling is what others have posted
I feel a large piece of my heart died when he did I feel like I have to be another person at work and then go home to our home we shared for 45 years and feel so alone I just crawl in bed and zone out to movies or sleep When I think about how much I miss him and being there when he took his last breath it's like I have to put my feelings away because its too hard to deal with them. I get mad then sad and cry I just want to go to sleep and wake up and he is back home with me. The question I have is I feel bad when other family members call with problems they are having or if they are sick. I feel like I can't handle it or be sympathetic and say the wrong thing to them. I really don't want to talk to others I feel bad I can't listen to there problems Does anyone else feel this way. I have always been the strong one helped others and was able to fix my problems. This grieving I can't fix me. I know everyone says it takes time but this is the worst thing to go thru and I don't feel I will ever be me again. I married Mike when I was 18. Moved from my patents house to be Mikes wife then became a mother and now 45 yrs later alone. I was always a wife and a mother never a me I don't know how to be me. Mike and I were friends too and did everything together I really don't have friends Sorry my post is so long. Mikes birthday is coming up then Xmas. Thanks for listening
- At 8:40pm on December 7, 2012, Babs said…
- Hi. I am new here how do I post a question My husband of 45 years passed away 10 months ago tonight I don't feel it will ever be better I miss so much. GOD BLESS EVERYONE
- At 2:35am on September 13, 2012, Marilyn kroge said…
- I am facing the 1st anniversary of the loss of my beloved Jim and I still can't accept that I am alone for the first time since I was 18 years old, almost 50 years with the same man and my only love. I wake in the night to sounds that I realize are coming from my very soul. I find myself calling out to him, begging him to please come back to me, that I can't go on without him and I can't stop the tears that won't stop and I don't want to stop the pain I feel because that would make it real, it would mean that I finally know that I will never feel his arms around me, that I'll never kiss him goodbye when he left each morning. This man I met for the first time and we knew that first meeting that love at first sight really happened and we were together from that moment until I kissed him and felt his last breath, warm and so amazing that I felt his breath as he closed his eyes and so quietly left me forever . I know how maudlin my words sound but I so need to finally tell someone of my pain. I'm not allowed to say any of this to my sons or anyone in my family. Their grief became anger and so this has been my life, alone and terribly hurt that no one wants to hear what I've said here where I feel safe sharing my deepest thoughts. Thank you......."m"
- At 9:13pm on September 12, 2012,
Margie Thrash said… I am coming up on my second month without my rock (Scott) it is hard but I do have good friends that check up on me every night if I dont contact them so I am fortunate that way. Had to already go thru his birthday without him was very hard to do. Then we always did a 100 mile horse ride week of labor day did it this year by myself with a few friends and was hard but I did it. Not a day goes by I dont cry. One of his last text to me was please dont get depressed like I am right now (he had 3 months to live from diagnosis made it 3 1/2). So I try to think of that text everytime it gets too bad and I go outside or work around the house and listen to alot of music.
- At 2:21am on January 10, 2012,
Rowe said…
Welcome to all new members. I Lost my first husband 31 yrs ago at the age of 38. Remaried 6 yrs later and lost my Late husband after 10 yrs. He has been gone for 15 years. I am living proof that after the grief, Life will go on. Not at first, but about 5 yrs later you will be living again.. even though you thought it would never happen. I Recommend that you do not try to avoid the grief.. you have to deal with it because if you dont it will be waiting for you to come back. I am here for you if you need to vent, or just want someone to give you an ear.
- At 5:40am on December 15, 2011,
dawn m long said…
hi steve only a few more days till christmas .. Im here for ya
luv dawn
- At 5:40am on December 15, 2011,
hi steve only a few more days till christmas .. Im here for ya
luv dawn
- At 5:39am on December 15, 2011,
hi steve only a few more days till christmas .. Im here for ya
luv dawn
- At 5:39am on December 15, 2011,
hi steve only a few more days till christmas .. Im here for ya
luv dawn
- At 5:39am on December 15, 2011,
hi steve only a few more days till christmas .. Im here for ya
luv dawn
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