"Thank you so much for you understanding. May 15th was 7 months since I lost Neal. He had lung cancer which in 5 months spread to his liver, bones and his brain. Five months from the time we were told about the cancer Neal was gone. Hardly time to…"
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Terri Carter left a comment for Linda G."Oh, how my heart goes out to you......and I understand about, well, all you wrote that I was able to read. I lost my husband to esophageal cancer Jan. 10th, after a long battle with various forms of the disease....and I can't seem to do…"
Terri Carter left a comment for Linda G."Oh, how my heart goes out to you......and I understand about, well, all you wrote that I was able to read. I lost my husband to esophageal cancer Jan. 10th, after a long battle with various forms of the disease....and I can't seem to do…"
Terri Carter commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"I am barely able to catch up on what you all have written.....but I need to. So much of what you write rings true for me. I cannot concentrate. I have trouble doing the tihngs I did (like paying the bills or keeping up AHEAD OF…"
Terri Carter commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"My husband also died on a Monday. But b/c of the type of breathing mask they had on him from the Sunday before, it was 11 am Sunday, Jan. 9th, 2011, my husband pointed at the clock (he could not speak then) and I didn't know what he…"
Terri Carter commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"You all make me feel so less alone in my experiences. I am sorry we are all going through them...but at least I feel kindred spirits out there, as we mourn together and find some common ground.
Linda, I understand what you are…"
Terri Carter commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"I am experiencing something I didn't expect - while I feel my husband in everything I do and find myself trying to hold onto things we did together as much as possible, I seem to have lost all interest in most everything that I used to do alone…"
Terri Carter commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"Linda and Maggie, I know JUST what you are saying - I feel the same way. Just waiting for him to walk in and hold me again...so strange, so surreal. And moving forward in spurts then brought up short by the reality of losing him (my…"
Terri Carter commented on Marco Lima's group Financial Matters and Estate Planning Corner"I am currently trying to work with a credit counselor (but they require a year's worth of every statement for every bill before they can work with me) and trying to work with the mortgage company to modify my mortgage. I have received…"
Terri Carter replied to D'Andrea Prater's discussion No idea, what to write here in the group Bereaved Spouses"I think part of what makes it harder, rather than easier, as time goes on (and it has only been 3 months since I lost my husband) is that there is still such an air of denial -- or perhaps it is shock -- that I guess helps sustain you in the…"
Terri Carter replied to D'Andrea Prater's discussion No idea, what to write here in the group Bereaved Spouses"Oh, D'Andrea, I just cried and cried on reading of your loss, so much that I wasn't really able to read it all. I will come back and read better another time. I just lost my husband January 10 of this year, 2011, and I…"
Terri Carter replied to Suzanne's discussion How did they do it? in the group Bereaved Spouses"Suzanne, you speak volumes.
As far as "how they did it," although they did not have the internet and the ability to share with others not so intimately connected with themselves, they probably had more closeness in their…"
Terri Carter commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"You all are amazing. And happy birthday to each one of you when your birthday was, is and will be. My husband and I were a decade and a week apart and he hung in there until after our birthdays (in December) and 10 days after the new…"
Terri Carter replied to Sheryl McCormick's discussion Some of the hardest things to cope with after you lose your spouse in the group Bereaved Spouses"Wow, you are all so on target -- and I am just discovering more that I could add to the list but won't right now.....just want to say thank you all for making me feel not so "off" in that I can relate to each and every one of these…"
Terri Carter replied to Linda O'Connor's discussion REPEAT: WHEN OUR SPOUSES DIE in the group Bereaved Spouses"Thank you. My husband died in January of this year. I needed to read this. I am glad for your help and hope my warmth back helps you and others."
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- At 1:04pm on May 17, 2011,
Linda G. said… - Thank you so much for you understanding. May 15th was 7 months since I lost Neal. He had lung cancer which in 5 months spread to his liver, bones and his brain. Five months from the time we were told about the cancer Neal was gone. Hardly time to get used to the diagnoses and then he is gone. Having to watch what the cancer did to him, knowing that he would soon be gone it was and is just so devasting. I know that when someone dies people tend to put that person on a pedistal. But I know that Neal had his bad points and I had mine in our marriage, but it was a good marriage. He was my protector, a good provider, a wonderful Daddy and Grandfather and a very good husband. We had 40 years 8 months of marriage. It was like it was Neal and I against the world. We were so in love and had so many plans for the future. But now what am I suppose to do? I am so glad I found this site with people whom I can share my feelings and everyone really understands what I feel and am going through.
- At 2:34pm on March 23, 2011,
Christy said… Terri,
I read your post regarding garage sale, finances & emotional turmoil. It's an awful situation to find ourselves in. No words, just an e-HUG & prayers, Christy
- At 10:48am on January 28, 2011,
Kathy King Kates said… - Terri, please ignore this rose person. She pops up on all our pages eventually but we have found it is just some scam thing or something and not worthy of worrying about. Anytime you see one of these (like dating things or whatever) don't let it bother you. we've had several "discussions" about them and have agreed as a whole not to give them any of our valuable time. It isn't worth the energy. Just wanted to give you the heads up as soon as I saw she got you quick...
- At 10:48am on January 28, 2011, Kathy King Kates said…
- Terri, please ignore this rose person. She pops up on all our pages eventually but we have found it is just some scam thing or something and not worthy of worrying about. Anytime you see one of these (like dating things or whatever) don't let it bother you. we've had several "discussions" about them and have agreed as a whole not to give them any of our valuable time. It isn't worth the energy. Just wanted to give you the heads up as soon as I saw she got you quick...
- At 8:31pm on January 26, 2011,
Barbara Roth said… Hi Terri, I am sorry for your loss but I am glad you found us. I have found alot of comfort here and made some terrific friends. Like Kathy said, it will be a rollar coaster ride. I lost my husband on Oct. 21,2010 to lung cancer that spred. We were married 38 yrs. This is the hardest part of life I have ever faced. I miss Jim so much. So be kind to yourself. We will be here with and for you.We'll listen to you, and we will understand. Hugs.
- At 6:19pm on January 26, 2011, Kathy King Kates said…
- Welcome to our support group. Feel free to share any feelings you have, good bad crazy anything. We have all been there in various forms. My dear husband has been gone for 11 months and the pain feels as fresh as in the beginning. It will be a roller coaster ride of lots of ups and downs. Take care of yourself. That is the most important thing you can do for yourself. Know that we are here for you with lots of hugs..
- At 6:19pm on January 26, 2011, Kathy King Kates said…
- Welcome to our support group. Feel free to share any feelings you have, good bad crazy anything. We have all been there in various forms. My dear husband has been gone for 11 months and the pain feels as fresh as in the beginning. It will be a roller coaster ride of lots of ups and downs. Take care of yourself. That is the most important thing you can do for yourself. Know that we are here for you with lots of hugs..
- At 5:42pm on January 26, 2011,
Terri Kuta said… Terri Im so sorry for your loss your husband sounds like a amazing man, our family was a his hers and mine combination our son the one that died was our only child together, I lost my father in august to cancer but he was 87 and was so ready to leave this earth but it hurts still the same. This place has been a miracle for me you will find that people that have lost their spouses will know what to say to get you thru another day even though they are going thru the same pain as you are, I still feel my son and he send me messages all the time Im sure your husband will do the same it sounds like you both were soul mates and even death can't separate that.
Best wishes
Terri Jonathan's mom
- At 5:11pm on January 26, 2011, Terri Kuta said…
Hi Terri:
What brings you here to grief support I lost my son november 19 2010 at the age of 17 I saw you just joined my name is terri also, this place has helped me so much i know it will you also
- At 5:11pm on January 26, 2011, Terri Kuta said…
Hi Terri:
What brings you here to grief support I lost my son november 19 2010 at the age of 17 I saw you just joined my name is terri also, this place has helped me so much i know it will you also
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