"It's been three years and 2 plus months since Byron died...everyone is absolutely _correct_ about the grief and loss _never_ being gone from your life, and the adaptations one has to make to go on in life: Realizing that for the majority of…"
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Yaca Attwood
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Yaca Attwood replied to Jessica Clinard Johnson's discussion Today I recieved the Death certificate in the group Bereaved Spouses"Dear Jessica - the Death Certificate, a "factual" document, truncates a life and the events leading up to the ending of that life - "ligature strangulation suicide" does _not_ incorporate all the features of your life with your…"
Yaca Attwood commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"To Wayne W: I am so very sorry for the loss of your beloved wife to suicide. I am sorry for the howling emptiness of grief, sorrow, loss, desolation and even anger you are experiencing; I am sorry for all the overwhelming emotions, for how each…"
Vee left a comment for Yaca Attwood"I have now crossed a small milestone, the 4-month mark. I hope your path has gotten a little easier. I'm just beginning this journey, but with prayer I face every day."
Yaca Attwood commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"Greetings, all - I haven't posted in a while....last night, I had an extremely vivid dream about Byron, and I actually woke myself up, I actually stopped it, because I know he's dead, and I guess I couldn't see the point in allowing…"
janeo replied to Yaca Attwood's discussion Observations of Assisted Living.... in the group Bereaved Spouses"Thank you, I will give the Hospice in my neighbor hood a call."
Yaca Attwood replied to Yaca Attwood's discussion Observations of Assisted Living.... in the group Bereaved Spouses"Greetings, Jane -
The hospice I'm volunteering with had a notice in our church bulletin, with contact information ...but most hospices always need volunteers, so I'm pretty sure if you call a local one, they'll connect you with their…"
janeo replied to Yaca Attwood's discussion Observations of Assisted Living.... in the group Bereaved Spouses"sorry didn't mean to write it twice."
janeo replied to Yaca Attwood's discussion Observations of Assisted Living.... in the group Bereaved Spouses" I would love to volunteer for hospice how did you get started?"
Yaca Attwood added a discussion to the group Bereaved Spouses
Observations of Assisted Living....
Greetings, all,I recently became a Hospice Volunteer (Byron was only in hospice for four days before he died on 29 June 2009, but I was so impressed by the care he was given). The hospice I'm volunteering with is not the same one that cared for him, but a local one. I've been assigned someone to visit weekly, a 94-year-old lady living in an assisted living facility. I was taken by the hospice Volunteer Coordinator to visit the site and meet her. The place is called 'Pacifica Senior Care', in…See More
Yaca Attwood replied to Brigitte's discussion Entering 3rd Year in the group Bereaved Spouses"This third Christmas and New Year's was hard, not as hard in some ways, but harder in others....as more time goes by since the death of our beloveds, resources just tend to fall away - friends and family aren't quite as able or willing to…"
Yaca Attwood commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"I wish you all strength and courage for tomorrow and the next week, through all the year; I recognize that 'Merry Christmas and Happy New Year' can be like daggers to hearts that grieve and mourn, to folks that may have to hold back the…"
Yaca Attwood replied to Liz's discussion question for you all... in the group Bereaved Spouses"It has been 2 years and 5 months since Byron died; the second year has been in some ways, worse than the "magical" first year that many people seem to think that you get 'over' the grief and 'deal' with it. The…"
Yaca Attwood commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"Best wishes to you, Virginia and Randolph - may God bless you both with peace, strength, healing and blessing!"
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- At 10:24am on May 8, 2012, Vee said…
I have now crossed a small milestone, the 4-month mark. I hope your path has gotten a little easier. I'm just beginning this journey, but with prayer I face every day.
- At 8:02pm on July 25, 2011, betsy toombs said…
Happy Birthday Yaca! I hope you have a great day.
I have been there too. My girlfriend took me out to eat and then we went to the movies. It was really nice of her. My one sister and my best friend from out of state are the only ones to remember.
- At 7:46pm on May 19, 2011,
Christy said… Dear Yaca,
I just read your post regarding tomorrow being your beloved's birthday. I can't remember his name right now, only that you call him the white man w/no gluteus maximus which always makes me smile. I know it may be a difficult day, but wish you peace & love.
- At 12:29pm on February 10, 2011, Christy said…
- Hey Yaca, Sorry to hear about the aggravation at work, but that's typical isn't it? Thank you for your input on what some of us may experience as time moves on. I understand now how the 2nd year could be worse than the first. I would not have understood as readily before experiencing this first hand! We are all hoping for some relief, but I've met a few women who lost their husband's 7, 10 and 14 years ago who never remarried and say they simply learn to live with the heartbreak and the tears that come and go even after years. That's not something newbies like me want to hear , but I appreciate the truth. Thanks again- Christy
- At 1:03pm on January 12, 2011,
Carol Kayser said… - Oh Yaca - yes you "Californians" gloating about your weather! 60 degrees today, no fair! We have 5 inches of snow today! Just listening to CNN - most of the U.S. has snow somewhere except Florida!
- At 6:05pm on January 7, 2011, Carol Kayser said…
Ahhh now I have a better idea Yaca. Hubby and I drove back and forth from L.A. a couple of times, so the names are a little familiar. I live in cow country too, funny! Well as with you, the cows around here and getting less and less unless they are in a dairy farm. We live 15 mins. from the U.S. border and the closest town is called Lynden, a small Dutch farming community and they have a lot of cows there!
I am going back to work next week. I have been off for 4 months. The reason I stayed away so long was because my husband passed away in the hospital where I work. However there is so much love there for me and for my late husband and the fact that our youngest daughter is expecting a baby and she will be going to the same hospital, that I need to take that next step. I am pretty nervous though!
- At 3:25pm on January 4, 2011, Carol Kayser said…
- Dear Yaca, I do like reading your posts and while I don't know where Chino Hills Ca is exactly my dear husband John was born and grew up in Monterey Bay area and has one sister in Salinas and one in Santa Cruz. My daughters and I took John's ashes to rest with his mom down there in October. We live in Canada on the west coast. Christmas and New Year's were hard! 39th wedding anniversary. The descriptions of your husband are wonderful, he sounded like such fun to be around. John could always make me laugh no matter what, loved that about him! Anyway I hope for all the best in 2011, sounds like you deserve it a lot! Good luck with the job.
Carol
- At 10:17am on December 22, 2010,
Jill Crawford said… - Yaca, I always enjoy/relate to reading your posts. You have a knack for picking the perfect word to describe the emotion you are going through. You are correct in stating the 2nd year is rough. The 2nd and into the 3rd years were my worst. Started actually feeling like I was healing and making headway after the 3rd year. My husband died 9.5 years ago; there is not a day I don't think about him, there is not a special occassion that comes along that I don't think about him, however, time has helped me with coping and healing. I wish you peace and satisfaction. It sounds to me that you had something I had.... a "forever" love. Time and distance does not diminish it, but you do learn how to adjust. You have such a positive attitude and I wish you nothing but joy, peace and satisfaction.
- At 4:39pm on December 15, 2010,
Ladona Melton said… Hope all is well, you are in my prayers this holiday season!!
- At 9:46am on November 11, 2010, Ladona Melton said…
- LOL, he was very handsome... And knew how to dress to impress, girl... Oh and his eyes, would burn into your soul. To say the least I could never tell the boy no :) Thank you, feel free to come back just to creap a little sneak peek, if you want LOL ;-)
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