Ben - You're in my thoughts day and night - My sweet love.

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The sudden loss of someone close to you

So very wise and concise. Thank you for your brief but most inspiring words I've heard. I will seek out that "anything" within myself and take action. I needed that to be said to me; you are my fri...

Tagged: suicide, stages of grief, sudden death

Replied Jun. 27, 2008

The sudden loss of someone close to you

Dear Pamela, We may be able to help each other through this sadness and my lonliness with my grief. I meet with the DA's office to prepare me for the prilimary hearing which is set for August 22-- ...

Tagged: suicide, stages of grief, sudden death

Replied Jun. 27, 2008

The sudden loss of someone close to you

Thank you for taking the time to write to me. The pain is so deep it really is a part of my being now. I am not the same person as I was before he was tragically killed. The first anniversary of hi...

Tagged: suicide, stages of grief, sudden death

Replied Jun. 22, 2008

The sudden loss of someone close to you

I feel the grief and love in your writing and at the same time I appreciate the suggestion about grief counseling. I've tried a couple of times but everyone that has lost a child has such different...

Tagged: suicide, stages of grief, sudden death

Replied Jun. 7, 2008

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At 9:41pm on November 19th, 2009, Tammy Love said…: my daughter was recently murdered of she lay sleeping in bed, I feel your intense pain and my heart is totally broken Pray to God, its the only thing that keeps going

At 4:47pm on June 13th, 2009, evelyn whittenburg said…: God can only heal owe wounds and it takes time and yes it hurts so bad i was and still is some time in a deep depression. I have to keep my faith in the lord to keep on going my son that pass away left me with 4 grand babies and my son in prison needs me to keep him strong until he can be proven that this was self defence. and he was misrepsintated by the lawyer he had the charged my oldest son with v.t. manslater he was not trying to hurt his baby brother. But i feel stuck in the middle because they were all i had. But i have to stay in faith in the lord to carry me day by day and you will be able to.

At 4:50pm on June 7th, 2009, Michael said…: I'm sorry I lost a friend who was shot and killed

At 10:54pm on August 10th, 2008, Pamela Apostolos said…: Dear Dianne, i have not seen you on for awhile and was wondering how things are going for you, fine i hope since it is coming up on the one year anniversary. Take care and God Bless Pam

At 7:43pm on August 3rd, 2008, Daisy M said…: OH DIANNE THAT IS TERRIBLE. I LISTEN TO YOUR HEART AND TRULY FEEL THE PAIN. JUST KEEP YOUR HEAD UP AND REMEMBER THOUGHT TIMES ARE TOUGH AND YES YOUR SON DEATH/BIRTH DATES ARE APPROACHING..... PLEASE REMEMBER GOD PUT ON US NO MORE THAN WE CAN HANDLE....AND WE BOTH KNOW NOT TO QUESTION THE JUDGEMENT OF HIS DECISIONS.... IT WILL BE OKAY ( I DONT SAY IT WILL END) BUT WITH TIME IT DOES GET BETTER. I HAVE EXPERINCE IT FOR 5 YEARS NOW, AND I CAN TALK MORE ABOUT MY BROTHER WITH THE SUDDEN SADDNESS. I CAN LOOK AT THE PICTURES NOW WITH (SOMEWHAT OF TEAR CONTROL) BUT AT THE SAME TIME I KNOW ITS OKAY.... NOW THAT HE IS GONE I OFTEN WONDER WHAT IS MY DESTINY, I KNOW THAT I WAS MEANT TO BE HERE LONGER THAN HE WAS BECAUSE I AM STILL HERE. NOW FOR HUSBAND.... I DONT KNOW WHAT THE ISSUE WAS, SOMETIMES GRIEF IS VERY HARD TO DEAL WITH AND ESPECIALLY FOR A MAN WHO FEEL THAT THEY CAN NOT COMFORT YOU( ULTIMATELY FEELING LIKE THEY HAVE LET YOU DOWN) BUT JUST KNOW THIS WAS ALL GODS PLAN, EVERYTHING YOU ARE GOING THROUGH IS WITH THE CAREFUL PLANNING OF THE LORD. EVEN WHEN YOU FEEL THAT NO ONE HEARS, YOUR CRIES, SEE YOUR TEARS, UNDERSTAND YOUR FRUSTRATIONS THERE IS THE ONLY PERSON THAT MATTER AND THAT IS GOD.... HE KNOWS WHAT YOU ARE DEALING WITH AND HE WILL PROVIDE YOU WITH THE SUPPORT YOU NEED TO GET THROUGH THE DAYS OF CELEBRATING YOUR SON BIRTH AND THE DAY OF BURYING HIM. HE IS WITH GOD, THERE IS NO OTHER PLACE HIS TIME HERE WAS COMPLETED AND SOMETIMES THINGS HAPPEN TO OPEN OUR EYES TO SEE WHAT WE THOUGHT WE HAD , WHICH REVEAL JUST THAT, WHAT WE THOUGHT.....
YOUR HUSBAND HAS FOUND THE COMFORT IN THE ARMS OF ANOTHER, AND ALTHOUGHT ITS NOT OKAY... YOU HAVE TO ACCEPT AND MOVE ON.... KEEPING HIM AROUND WILL DO YOU NO GOOD. YOU DESERVE HONESTY AND KEEP YOUR INTERGRITY....
MY LEGACY SUPPORT SISTER I AM HERE WHEN NEEDED ALWAYS
~DAISY~

At 5:47am on August 3rd, 2008, Daisy M said…: Hi Dianne, just checking in on ya to see how things are going for you. I hope life is a little easier for you. May God keep you focused....

At 1:30pm on July 1st, 2008, Patricia Wolney said…: Good luck with your job search. I have found it easier for myself to not work to much with or around the public. I am grateful for my job, I don't deal with people everyday just my employees. They understand me and tolerate my moods. I wish you only the best.

At 6:11pm on June 30th, 2008, Patricia Wolney said…: You do sound pretty busy. That could be a good thing though. I found the busier I stay the less I have to think. I live in Louisville, Kentucky. I do work for a Packaging Company. I am a supervisor on a off site facility, we supply alot of packaging for Dell computers and accessories. Getting ready for court has to be really hard. I am here if you need someone.

At 3:20pm on June 30th, 2008, Patricia Wolney said…: Just wanted to check in and see how you are doing. Did your weekend go okay? Let me know how you are doing.

At 12:27pm on June 27th, 2008, Patricia Wolney said…: Please know you are not alone. If you ever need to vent, talk or just need a shoulder please don't hesitate to contact me.

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