"Hi back Betsy, I am going to check out your church for sure:) well me too, Catholic that is, but feel the same way. Wanted to say, yes I am on Facebook, I will send you a friend request, I'd love to see your pictures!
Yes…"
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betsy toombs left a comment for Carol Kayser"Hey
Glad to hear from you. They are putting a Target in Toronto around here.
I did start going to church after my girlfriend on Fla researched it.
Didn't want to do the catholic one and she is Baptist. I go to Orchard Community Church in…"
Carol Kayser left a comment for betsy toombs"Hi Besty. How are you doing? long time no talk:) thought I would check in. No hockey to watch - whatever are you doing with yourself?? tee hee...
Me - I have been watching tons of episodes of LOST - quite…"
betsy toombs commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"Janeo my fav team also!B nice if we could see some games!"
betsy toombs commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"Maggie
I have wanted to do that. I stopped going to my counselor because of stuff she said.
After going to her for almost 2 yrs she said the next time we were going to talk about my sex life! She wanted to know how long since i had had sex! She also…"
Carol Kayser left a comment for betsy toombs"Hi Betsy. How was your day on Friday? Mine was nice because I spent it enjoying watching my sweet granddaughter running around and I couldn't help but smile. Truthfully if I didn't have her in my life things would be…"
betsy toombs left a comment for Carol Kayser"Hi Carol
I hope you have a good day! I have to work today from 130-6, then a girlfriend from my support group and I are going out to dinner."
betsy toombs commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"I know what you mean. My anniversary is tomorrow-aug 31. It doesn't seem to get any better. The only thing new this year is i moved and got a new car.
Life itself isn't any easier or different. I am still alone and don't want to be.…"
betsy toombs commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"I know what you mean about having someone to fix things Jean, Ashley.
Trying to get someone to fix the car was a nightmare. After 2 yrs i finally said enough! I went out and leased a 2012 Malibu. Had no choice. My car needed 2 much work and it was…"
betsy toombs commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"Beth
When my mother died we donated food to Foodlink and the clothes to Goodwill and to a battered womans shelter(they need clothes when they go out to look for work)
Our church also picked up a bunch of stuff"
Vee left a comment for betsy toombs"Betsy, thank you for requesting to be my friend. We all need friends now more than ever. This group has been a big part of my road to healing, if that is even possible, but I pray it is. You are certainly in my prayers. This…"
betsy toombs commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"Ok I have a question for you all. I hope i am not being out of line.
I go to a counselor and a group one. The group one has helped alot. It is like this place. You hear other people talk and realize people have the same problems.
I went to the…"
betsy toombs commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"Katy
I know what you mean. It will be 2 yrs for me in aug. (some days it doesn't seem like it and then it seems like it was a long time ago)
My family has been non existant. My daughter shows up(she lives about 1 hr away) once or twice a yr. My…"
betsy toombs commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"Nancy
I also was just on prednisone because of my asthma. I had sinus infection and bronchitis. It went away, but when it got so warm so fast all the pollens were a month ahead of schedule. I had trouble even with my allergy meds and allergy shots.…"
betsy toombs commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses"Hi Debra
I know just what you mean. I am lonely also. It has been 1 1/2 yrs since my husband of 32 yrs died. Last fall i moved into a new house(i just couldn't handle being in the old one)November of 2011
I might just as well be all alone, my…"
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- At 12:11am on November 18, 2012, Carol Kayser said…
Hi back Betsy, I am going to check out your church for sure:) well me too, Catholic that is, but feel the same way. Wanted to say, yes I am on Facebook, I will send you a friend request, I'd love to see your pictures!
Yes Happy Thanksgiving...:)to you.
- At 8:57pm on November 12, 2012, Carol Kayser said…
Hi Besty. How are you doing? long time no talk:) thought I would check in. No hockey to watch - whatever are you doing with yourself?? tee hee...
Me - I have been watching tons of episodes of LOST - quite enjoying it! Watching my little Abby grow and talk and that is so precious.
Otherwise, trying to move, house sales are sluggish to say the least. Once I do that, I can retire and be my own boss, LOL...
Hugs,
Carol
- At 11:23am on September 3, 2012, Carol Kayser said…
Hi Betsy. How was your day on Friday? Mine was nice because I spent it enjoying watching my sweet granddaughter running around and I couldn't help but smile. Truthfully if I didn't have her in my life things would be pretty miserable at times. She brings me hope and that is what life is all about these days....hope for a happy future:)
Thinking of you!
Carol
- At 2:06am on June 12, 2012, Vee said…
Betsy, thank you for requesting to be my friend. We all need friends now more than ever. This group has been a big part of my road to healing, if that is even possible, but I pray it is. You are certainly in my prayers. This is not an easy walk, but I know we don't walk alone. I will tell anyone, as that old gospel song says, "If it had not been for the Lord on my side, where would I be." I will continue to keep you and your family in my prayers. Feel free to send a message any time. Just having people who know and understand is so very important.
May God's healing virtue flow into all of us. healing that all-important part of us, our soul through this trying time.
- At 5:46pm on February 7, 2012, Carol Kayser said…
Hi Betsy. I know, some days and weekends are really hard:( Usually I can handle things, but really kind of broke down on the weekend. It is the normal stuff, as you say, the lonliness is really hard to take sometimes! I find it doesn't matter if people are around you, your mind just goes to your darling and oh how we miss them! I was thinking how each month just presents a challenge, either a special memory or a special day. Do you notice that?
I am glad you are still going to your counselling and group. I tried a group thing but it did not work at all for me. I had been going to counselling but stopped. Last time I spoke with her was November. I think I should go back.
Well my big step is I have put up my house for sale! I intend to buy a home with my family so I can be close to my beautiful granddaughter. I will retire then, I am so over working!
I hope you will have a visit soon, you deserve it. Thinking of you.
Hugs,
Carol
- At 3:26pm on January 17, 2012, Carol Kayser said…
Hi Betsy! good to hear from you. So glad you are getting settled into your new place. It does take up the majority of your time, that is for sure. On the other hand it is nice to be kept busy. Are you meeting your neighbors and enjoying your neighborhood too?
That is a good solution for you to your wedding rings, and a really sweet and nice gesture too for your garden because you can sit out there and just know part of him is with you.
Me, well I am thinking of moving too! Actually hoping to move in with my younger daughter and family, my new beautiful sweet granddaughter Abigail, the light of my life! She is bringing such joy to me Besty, and you know, my husband knew that would happen, smart guy that he was! I am also thinking of retiring pretty quick here, had enough of working. Just want my personal freedom now though I think it will be a trade off between working and babysitting! Not full time at all because I do want to travel.
I went to Hawaii in October with a friend and we are having a family reunion in California in April so looking forward to that.
Just taking it one day at a time nowdays. Christmas was nice due to baby Abigail. New Year's was our 40th anniversary! I read a lot, think of my sweetheart and that is about it. Oh enjoy my dog for sure, lots of fun with her.
Not sure what the future holds - just like you, trying to figure that out! I don't know if I would date ever again, right now I am sure not ready at all. Just keeping active and distracted is working so far!
We will just keep 'truckin along" don't you think!!
xoxoxo
- At 12:38pm on October 28, 2011,
Kathy King Kates said… - Thank you for writing Betsy. I just got moved a couple weeks ago and life is so different and feels more comfortable now. Ran into trouble with Bill's son on selling our house, he layed claim to a portion so now fighting that with probate court. Hope it will clear soon as my nephew is trying to buy it to keep in the family. Bill's son never had anything to do with us, just trying to hurt me is all I see in this. My nephew loved Bill and our home so i really hope he wins it. Hope all works out for you in your new home and life. Online dating is where I went and it works pretty good.
- At 12:38pm on October 28, 2011, Kathy King Kates said…
- Thank you for writing Betsy. I just got moved a couple weeks ago and life is so different and feels more comfortable now. Ran into trouble with Bill's son on selling our house, he layed claim to a portion so now fighting that with probate court. Hope it will clear soon as my nephew is trying to buy it to keep in the family. Bill's son never had anything to do with us, just trying to hurt me is all I see in this. My nephew loved Bill and our home so i really hope he wins it. Hope all works out for you in your new home and life. Online dating is where I went and it works pretty good.
- At 8:20pm on September 15, 2011, Carol Kayser said…
Hi Betsy, thanks for checking in. It is hard finding a new place. I have been checking out places on line, something smaller but of course for me, it would be a condo or townhouse (as I live in now) and some allow pets and some don't and even if they do, the dog has to be so many inches high and weigh so much, and I already think my pup is too big to meet their criteria. I don't know why they are so hard with pets, because most of the time they behave better than humans!
Funny, I let a balloon go too - at hubby's favorite park, and it got stuck in the trees! My friend said "don't worry, he just wants to hang around us for a bit longer". My daughter and granddaughter came too. It is tough - I am on Facebook so I get a lot of "virtual hugs" from my friends, far and wide, and notes that say "thinking of you", so that helps. I don't feel so all alone.
I am sorry about his family though - that must be really hard. I was talking with my counsellor about that, and she says she hears it so much you know, how people are left alone or people you think you can depend on you really can't. Hard not to be jaded by that!
Well good wishes for finding your new home Besty! I will be thinking about you.
Hugs,
Carol
- At 5:47pm on September 1, 2011,
Marlena said… Betsy,
I hope your day yesterday was manageable. I hope the wonderful memories you created helped you get through the day.
Hugs,
Marlena
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