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At 11:35pm on May 28, 2011, Julie said…: Yes, I understand your pain. Stay strong, even thought I know its easier said than done. My husband had been in rehab so many times, and if I had known this was going to be different, I would have taken him again. I feel guilty, but I know it is not my fault. I always told him I could not do it without him. I struggle everyday, not just with my deep sadness, but with my son. He is very mean to me and makes such fun of me. I know he is hurting also. He was close to his dad. But it does not make my days any better. I ask my dearest's picture everyday, why did you leave me? Its funny everyone tells me how strong I have been all through the years with his addictions and all that entails. Funny I don't feel strong... Hugs to you

At 11:35pm on May 28, 2011, Julie said…: Yes, I understand your pain. Stay strong, even thought I know its easier said than done. My husband had been in rehab so many times, and if I had known this was going to be different, I would have taken him again. I feel guilty, but I know it is not my fault. I always told him I could not do it without him. I struggle everyday, not just with my deep sadness, but with my son. He is very mean to me and makes such fun of me. I know he is hurting also. He was close to his dad. But it does not make my days any better. I ask my dearest's picture everyday, why did you leave me? Its funny everyone tells me how strong I have been all through the years with his addictions and all that entails. Funny I don't feel strong... Hugs to you

At 10:43pm on May 28, 2011, heather said…: It's been 14 mo. since my Jim passed away the hardest is living alone no one to talk to. I developed diabetes now and have to take insulin I was so sick and was in the hospital for a week. Maybe I will see him soon I just try to keep my little place tidy and stay sane. God Bless everyone

At 11:54pm on January 9, 2011, Hurting said…: Hi Heather, how are you doing? Sorry haven't been in touch with you but I was trying to cope with my one year anniversary. Please stay in touch.

At 11:41am on May 1, 2010, heather said…: i do have family close by and they have helped me so much my daughter and granddaughter come by every week and call often to see if i need anything and listen to me talk about Jim. He wasn't related to them my second marriage but they are very understanding about my feelings of loss and grief. i do not work because i am disabled so i have a lot of time on my hands. i tr to keep busy but i have my moments i cry when i see a show we liked to watch together on tv or a song he liked i can't believe hes gone but God is my strength i will see him again someday i know in heaven if we can talk i would love to thanks so much

At 10:04pm on April 30, 2010, Hurting said…: So how are you managing? Do you have other family with you or closeby? With me the thing that keeps me going is my children who still need me. But it is tough.

At 8:06pm on April 29, 2010, Hurting said…: Heather I am so sorry for your loss, you just have to stay connected with all of us and whenever you are ready to share your emotions we are here for you. Take your time. I lost my husband 18 weeks ago and I know that every Wednesday I go in panic mode so I don't even talk with others. We are all here for you.

At 9:16pm on April 3, 2010, Marc said…: My goodness, that's recent. You must be about numb. I hope I'm through with the numbness. Getting in touch with the feelings, as horrible as they are, I think, is the only way through the unthinkable. Confronting the awful reality comes, like it or not, and the presence of friends or family makes a good deal of difference. Even if they just hold you or just be with you, the support is there and you'll feel it and feel things that can help to give you some hope for your recovery (even though we'll never be quite the same again). Listen to me! I really have no idea what I'm talking about. I only think I do. The love and support given to me by friends and family since my wife's passing on 1/1/2010 has meant the world to me. It's very scary to face the future, but what choice is there? We'll make it, honest. Marc

At 9:03pm on April 3, 2010, Dominic Manzer said…: Heather, and others.

I'm sorry if my message was blunt and disturbed you. I needed to get something done quickly. In a few minutes, I've received two replies showing that the message was sent to many people.

I put a message up on Concilla's wall and sent an Email to Legacy. I don't know how long it might take for them to respond.

This appears to be a variation on the a classic e-mail scams, "you have money" or " I need help.." but targeted to a very venerable group. I has the tell tails of internet scams, comes from a foreign country from a non native english speaker. Being in a foreign country makes prosecution or recovery of assets impassable.

The original message looks to have been written in Spanish then translated by a translation computer program and not edited by someone who speaks any english at all.

I'll admit that I could be wrong. But If I'm correct, someone could be badly taken.

Dominic

At 8:32pm on April 3, 2010, Marc said…: Heather, how long has it been since your loss, if I may ask? And the reason I ask is because my own loss has been relatively recent (three months) and I still feel like I'm falling apart at times and just hopeful that as the days pass and small new things begin to come into my life, that I can begin to string together some days that are not so difficult.
Respectfully, Marc