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At 12:33pm on October 11th, 2009, shirley zurschmeide said…: For all of us who has lost a child, the pain never goes away but you live on until it's your turn to die and you can't go until the Lord calls for you or you may not get to go where you child is. I know I thought about suicide when my son died, all I wanted to do was to be with him. But as I read books on dieing and their spirits. How in their own way our children still connect with us. We just have to pay attention to the signs they send us. It's been almost two years since Scott died. I will always cry for him and I talk to him believing he hears me. So you will live until it's you time and you will carry the pain each day. People will say time heals all things, we know that's not true. This is how I have came to realize this is how it is. You can't change it, you can't take your life only the Lord can. So we wait for our turn to die. I believe our children will be there waiting for us to help us to cross over. It's worth waiting for don't you think. We can all form a group where we can get together talk,laugh, cry and help each other. We together are the only ones who really knows our pain.

Shirley

At 6:57pm on September 23rd, 2009, shirley zurschmeide said…: Colleen, our son's death will never be easy for us. I spent my birthday at the funeral home. Scott has been gone well it will be two years in March. When I'm driving and I look up at the clouds I'll say Scott where are you. Sometimes when I'm home alone I'll talk to him. I miss him so much, sometimes I feel he'll come thru the door and say hey woman and I would say I'm not a woman I'll your mom. I go to Scott's grave and the tree that is by his grave I have hung wind chimes and nailed a UofL sign to the tree. Scott was my first child I had him when I was seventeen. So we spent alot of time together. It'll get some what easier but the pain will always be there. What ever I can do for you I'm here. If you need somebody to talk to, we can get together and share our grief and we can cry.

Shirley

At 10:55pm on September 22nd, 2009, Colleen Dore said…: Shirley, your sons birthday, is the day my son Robby died, and like you, me and my son had the same type of relationship, his funeral was Aug 1, 2009, my wedding anniversary, my life will never be the same, and I can't stop thinking about him, and I usually cry all day/night. I miss him so much and its killing me inside. My husband will not listen to me he does not want to talk about it anymore, I can't forget and move on like that. I am so depressed, I feel your pain, with every breath I take, I just want my son back!

At 2:23pm on September 15th, 2009, Cindy Sadler said…: I totally understand how you feel about when "our" final day comes. I am no longer afraid and like you I am looking forward to the day that I can be with my son again. I also have a Beautiful 9 year old Daughter so I am letting nature take it course opposed to living a "high risk" Life. Kisses for you. Cindy

At 1:35pm on September 2nd, 2009, Linda said…: Hi Shirley, I have read that purple light is your guardian angel or spirit guide watching over you. I read this in the book, Journey of Souls by Michael Newton, PhD. This book is his case studies of patients he put in superconscious states and was able to regress them back to their lives in the spirit world. Most of these people's stories are very similar, just as the stories of near death experiences are similar in scope. Whatever the purple light was, please know that you were meant to see it as a sign that your son is and always will be around you. God bless you in your journey. Linda

At 7:40pm on August 30th, 2009, richard mom said…: SHIRLEY,I WANTED TO FIND RELIEF FROM WHAT WAS HAPPENING ALSO.BUT I KNEW IT WAS NOT JUST ABOUT ME.PEOPLE WERE LOOKING AT ME TO SEE HOW I WAS GOING TO DEAL WITH THIS.I HAD BEGIN GOING TO A CHURCH 1 YEAR BEFORE THIS HAPPENED.IN FACT THE VERY DAY 1 YEAR LATER RICHARD WENT WITH ME.MY PASTOR IN ONE OF HIS VERY FRIST SERMONS I HEARD SAID WE ALL ARE HERE FOR A REASON.I HAD NO IDEAL HOW THOSE WORDS WOULD COME BACK TO ME SO MANY TIMES.GOD BUT ME THERE TO GET ME READY FOR THE WORSE THING THAT I'D EVER BEEN THREW.NOT THAT ANYONE COULD BE PREPARED FOR THIS.EVERY ACTION LOVING WORDS SHOWED ME I WASN'T ALONE.150 PEOPLE SHOWED UP FOR HIS MEMORIAL.I GOT UP AND SPOKE TO A CROWD FOR THE FRIST TIME IN MY LIFE.MY VERY EXISTENCE WAS TO MAKE HIM PROUD AND FOR THE WHOLE WORLD TO KNOW OF MY LOVE FOR HIM.I HOPE YOU WILL CONSIDER WHAT YOUR SON WOULD WANT FOR YOU.I KNOW HE WOULD NOT WANT YOU TO SINK INTO A HOLE.HE WOULD WANT ONLY GOOD.THE LIGHT AT THE FUNERAL HOME COULDN'T BE THE ONLY MESSAGE YOU'VE GOTTEN FROM HIM.CONSIDER THAT YOUR GRANDCHILDREN ARE PART OF THE REASON YOU ARE STILL HERE.YOU DO NOT WANT THEM TO REMEMBER SCOTT AS THE REASON YOU DRINK.RICHARD WAS A ORGAN DONOR PEOPLE FROM THERE CONSEL YOU THEY WARNED ME MORE THAN ONCE WHAT COULD HAPPEN IF I TRIED TO SEDATE MYSELF TO KEEP FROM FACEING THIS.TAKE CARE!!!!

At 11:18am on August 29th, 2009, richard mom said…: Shirley I was so gald to hear from you.I know this some of the things of this world could eat us up.I find some peace in that that wonderful person was laid in my arms from the minte he came into this world.My blood ran threw his veins.The women he had in his life were such drama queens.He did every thing for them but spoon feed them.I wondered long before he left why he chose such as them.Of course he dated,but the 2 he married were cut from the same cloth.And the way they treated him blew my mind.He was showed no respect.He deserved so much better,and to think he spent so much time trying to make this world a little better for everyone else.His wife had left him 2 weeks before he left.Because she didn't like him takeing care of his 93 year old grandmother.Then she stepped back in when he went to the hosiptal like she never left.But I just knew I would make him proud by doing and being what he would want me to be,I kept peace I held her hand at the memorial.But when I walked out of there I knew I would not have anything else to do with her.She made statements that she was going to sue me over flowers.That belonged to the church.I knew she would never be any different.She calls her self his widow.You have to be a wife,to be a widow.No matter what she can not change who I am or what he and I had.Which is more than any material possesion that those girls hold.I can so understand you driving by that house.And you know he proabley is sitting right there beside you.I belivie the most beauitful things about Richard is the things I hold with my heart.I wish I 'd known then how beauitful it was to hear him say MOM.But it appears he knows all my thoughts now.You did not mention how long Scott and her had been together.Do your other children come to vist often.

At 9:36pm on August 27th, 2009, richard mom said…: Shirley,I read about what happened to you at the funeral home.This week has been a little easier since what happened to me Sunday.On Saturday nite my mother and I was going over every detail for the 1000 time all the should of and wish I had of.I said to her I wonder if Richard knew just how loved he is.The next day I was handed a 20.00 dollar bill and written across the top was Richard with hearts on both sides. I knew he had sent me my answer.

At 6:25pm on August 12th, 2009, shirley zurschmeide said…: Tiffany, I threw out there for anybody who could tell me what the light meant. I going to this web site right now. Thank you

At 2:43pm on August 12th, 2009, tiffany wheatley said…: I am assuming that your comments were directed to me. So, I will answer. I do not know what your experience was with the cloud, but what I can share with you is two separate incidences. 1) I was sitting in a sermon, and my Pastor mentioned how the last would be first, I saw a clear vision of all the children of the resurrection standing before the throne. Jesus helped me to understand what he meant when he said you must become like a child to enter in. The second thing that happened to me, is that I was sitting alone at home, and I was on my bed, and just feeling petrified. Petrified by the atmosphere of all the things that were going wrong in my life. So I sat there, and I began playing one of my internet playlists of songs. I began to worship and praise God, and I sat and listened suddenly the playlist began toggling through only my Christian songs on the list, and as God as my witness, I suddenly FELT a presence enter the room, and then I FELT the air split. It wasn't wind, but it was a sudden gush like someone had just taken a knife, and cut the atmosphere in two. After that, I have never felt afraid to be in my home anymore. I never gave angels much emphasis, but as I looked for information on what had happened in my home, everything began pointing to the Archangel Michael. He handles fears. I praise God that he loves me so much that he would send an Archangel to comfort me in my dispair.If you know your expeience is real, don't discount it. Seek out information until you have your answer. Do I believe that God is with you. Yes, even unto the ends of the earth is his promise. Selah. God bless. Sis Tiffany.

Ms. Shirley, I am tears right now, I just left you a comment, and the I started looking up, not purple light, but more attributes of the ArchangeL Michael. I"m just in awe of God love for us! I started searching on the inetrnet, and the first page I came too, I found it. I'm am not a diviner or anythging like that......Omg, I hope you can recieve this. God is so good. Omg! So, after I left you this comment like I said from my experience, I couldn't tell you what your purple light was, but I recently found out from my own personal experience that I was being watched over by the Archangel Michael. I had never really given into angels or anything like that. But I knew what happened in my home, and I immediately started looking for answers. I found out that Michael was the angel that calmed fears through some site, I dont even remember it, but after I left that comment to you just now, I did an internet search, and the engine came back, attributes of communicating with the Angel Michael..... here I am crying again, and the seventh attribute that it gave, is that you see shimmers of blue and purple light!!!! Yes, it was right there clear as day!!! My dear sister in Christ, he not only loves you, but he has sent one of his mostg beloved beings in heaven to comfort you in your time of grief. Praise the Lord!!!! The website is as follows:

http://www.beliefnet.com/Inspiration/Angels/2008/12/8-Ways-to-Recog...
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