"Thanks everyone. MaggieP, Carol, Jan, Helen and Marsha. I'm getting a hold of the handle and when I think I got it, it breaks. I guess the story of my life. at least for now I'm glad I have you guys to talk too."
"Helen- also thank you. I know that crying a part of anyone life even if some don't admit they do it. As for me a 28 year old single mom of a 2 yrs old (in a month) I've cried a lot already even since I was pregnant and before him and…"
"Marsha thank you as always. I just don't know if maybe I was a bit more sensitive feeling the way I did yesterday and my friend told me that but my mom and aunt think I did nothing wrong. So maybe I didn't and feeling the way I did…"
"hi everyone. Today has been a super bad day for me, today marks 7 months and I just stopped crying since this morning. I think things may be on a downward spiral for me and I'm start to get more down than I have ever been. Then a friend told me…"
"Marsha and Carol- Oh how true I wish I could just say "Honey I broke it you fix I don't know what I did but I know you can fix it." Now I had to call the landlord and have to take my car to the shop. But its nice and…"
"Carol- I did like it there but probably not enough to move there it was very pretty though. My allergies didn't handle it very well but besides that it was nice. Were outside everyday for a couple walks and lots of shopping I had to send things…"
"Marsha- speaking of good and bad news, we had a fantasic time this past week to come home to bad weather, my cars acting up, my garage door is broking i think, and tomorrow would have been our 2nd yr wedding anniversry. It may not be a…"
"hey everyone. I just got back from vacation with my son. we went to california to visit my mom and dad. First time on a plane for my son he had a blast and I got some good pictures to share with my family from the trip. We had a blast at…"
"marsha thanks i will look into those groups again but my insurance dont cover those kind of drs. So I've been looking for someone or somewhere that does i can't afford to go without it being covered or free."
"Marsha thanks as always and i was lookng into counsiling groups besides this one the groups i just cant get into one with daycare for a few months yet but im still looking. I heard about gong to a phychic but i dont know of any around me."
"well today marks 6 months for me and I want to say I'm doing a little better but I'm not really. I took my son over by my sister friday night, I had to work all day saturday and went out to dinner with a friend I haven't seen in a…"
"marsha i know that your right ive never been alone for this long i dont like it and i always feel like the 3rd wheel when it comes to my friends i went out today and spent time on me with just me i had a little bit of fun. im trying but i like…"
"marsha- so that guy doesn't want to talk to me anymore so i guess im not surprised but a little disappointed, we talk like everything was going fine then we went out once and he completely blew me off after that. o well back to square one again"
Stacy this is all part of grieving as you struggle with a new normal! In the first stages of grief I use to worry about myself because I was doing so well but after looking back on it I was NOT doing well at all. You are struggling to make sense of all of this and it is hard because you also have a young child to deal with who does not understand. Take each day as a new beginning, and always look forward not back. It truly is a baby step process and some days we feel as though we have fallen back to the beginning (the grief tango) and that is OK it just makes us stronger. Your tears are healing for your soul so cry when you need to and it truly is about YOU.
I am 17 months into this and I truly hate every day of being here but I am so I need to adjust, keep myself busy and look forward. Just keep the faith and keep looking forward! Sending you big hugs, Jane P.
Stacy I suggest you take some pictures of stuff you may be depending others to dispose of for you. It will give you added documentation if need be and will protect your assets if they should be MIA. Good luck with your move and remember to breath all of this is overwhelming! Hugs, Jane P.
Wow I can't believe that happened. .I'm so very sorry. I had to watch my wife die also. It was so horrible I still can't believe she's gone. Thanks for being there. Remember if u wanna talk day or night, I'm here. I'll give you my number if you ever wanna talk. I know exactly what you're going through.
Stacey, I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my wife a month ago in an atv accident. I miss her so much and still can't pick up the pieces. No words seem to help and I feel so lost right now. I almost gave up the other day. But I didn't cause I knew I have to be there for our children. Please do the same. Good luck.
Stacey...don't even try to understand why things like this happen. You won't get a definitive answer and will only drive yourself crazy trying to figure it out.
I can understand the shock of finding him like that...it's an awful thing and you feel helpless. But you aren't deserving of guilt. There is no way of knowing if your getting home earlier would have saved him...or if this might have happened at a different time.
Still, even without guilt, you are and I both feel the pain of losing someone we loved.
Marje fell down 6 steps and hit her head..I was at her side within seconds.....and I knew then it was bad.....so bad...I was afraid she was already gone. I asked her to squeeze my hand and I got a very weak response.....that was her last response. I know your panic...I just about freaked out..and was barely able to call 911.
They worked on her, where she fell for 20-30 minutes and for a half hour in the ambulance trying to stabilize her. Soon after she got to the the hospital, neurologists were telling me that surgery wasnt an option and that she probably wouldn't make it through the night. She went from being a very active fit runner...to "won't make it through the night" in about two hours.
I don't know if I will ever get the image of her lying at the bottom of the stairs out of my mind....my guess is that you ate in the same boat.
Tonight after you put your baby to bed.....and start to cry....I'll be crying right along with you.
Both of us ...have to get through...one day at a time. Other people depend on us
I truly feel the pain you are going through. My wife died suddenly in a freak accident 4 1/2 weeks ago.
Friends ask what they can do...and I don't know what to tell them.
I go out to eat or over their house....and realize that only half of me is there ...the other half is gone. The time with friends is only a short distraction compared to the hours in the day.
For me, the night is worse..that is when I feel most alone.
In the few days that I have been on this forum, I've learned that the people here understand....but, of course, they have no solution.
You need to be strong for your son. He is more dependent on you than ever.
Dear Stacy I am so sorry for your loss, with so little time having passed I am sure that you will be pretty much numb on your birthday but like Carol said it so well, try to have a good day and be kind yourself. Every night I ask God to comfort us when we mourn, strengten us when we feel that we can't go on and give us His peace so that we may find rest for our weariness. Happy Birthday Stacey. Janice
Stacy you are far too young to be going through all this. I am so sorry, my heart goes out to you. I am lost for words, you had so little time together. All I can do is 'listen', will pray for God to give you strength, you will need it, for yourself and your son. Hope you have people around to help.