My sister Wanda was not just my only sister, she was my very best friend. She held my hand on my first day of school. She taught me how ride a bike, drive a car, and how to not take myself for granted. She was my matron of honor when I got married. We had such big plans of amusement parks, road trips, and just being silly together when and if her children ever grew up. She was diagnosed with breast cancer in July 2001 and they told us she had at most 6 weeks to live. I cried in the hospital…

I lost my husband of 26 years in January of this year. He had been diagnosed with congestive heart failure in early November but was otherwise healthy. He was put on various medications to strenghten his heart but to no avail. We had a good day that Friday doing all the things we normally did, shopping, lunch with grandkids, and just enjoying life here at home. His words to me that evening were "I don't feel good", and then he was gone. I am hoping this site will help me in expressing my…

~TO MY BEST FRIEND!~



My dear friend,

close your eyes…

hold my hand,

and hear me whisper…



For the times I was lost,

You were there to look for me.

Will you believe me when I say I love you more than you’ll ever know.

Will…

Q. The mother of a relatively new client of mine just died of a heart attack. I’m a lawyer, and am thinking of sending the condolence note below to the client:

“Janet: So very sorry to hear about your mother’s passing. When the days seem dark, remember to cherish the good memories the two of you created. It will help carry you through the dark. You are in my thoughts and prayers.”

Do you think this note is appropriate?

It’s…

I am trying me best to keep my wife's family together and act like a real father to her kids...real dad has taken off. But they just want to blame me for her death, say that I didn't really love her, make comments that are untrue, and not have anything to do with me. Her youngest has no job, drinks constantly(I don't know where he gets the money), and lives in my wife's house. I have supported him financially(until now) and he won't relinquish mom's car to me. He has made up a story that she…

My cousin Neil was the brother I never had.  I remember going to his parent's wedding when I was very young.  I remember him attacking my room when I was 13 and he was 3 and me screaming to "GET NEIL OUT OF MY ROOM MOM!"  Fast forward many years, and Neil started staying with my own family when he was about 14.  He would stay a couple of weeks or more each summer with my husband, daughter and me every year.  He was such a big part of our lives, he went everywhere with us and our friends soon…

Hi! My name I Marilyn, and I am new to this forum.

My soul mate and husband  died on April 21 after a heroic, eleven year battle with prostate cancer.

We were only married for 18 months, a second marriage for both of us, before the diagnosis of prostate cancer, and then there were three of us in our marriage for the remaining 10 years - me, Richard, and cancer. It affected not only my husband life's, but mine as well - intimacy, planning for the future, the ability to travel…

On April 3,2013 I lost the hero in my life, my father.  I am still dealing with the lost and every day  is a new stuggle with accepting this void that is left behind.  My father and I were very close and I hold no regrets or hard feeling about him. For as I gave his ulogy, I commented on how he was a kind, strong,understanding,guiding and loving man. He and my mother would have been married 50 yrs this October. It is sad to see her without her partner, soulmate. I live right next door to…

I lost my father Dec 2011 and was not informed of his death until March of 2012 through his family by a letter from a probate attorney. I wasn't  even informed by the family of my father's passing and was left out of his cremation plans and even denied my right to pay my last respects to my father. 

I am at a point where Im still grieving and yet very upset that the family stooped that low over what my father left. I have been trying to find topics on this specific issue Im…

Many of us will spend Mother’s Day remembering mom. How you remember her depends on your perspective and how you shape your memories. Do you feel your glass is half empty or half full? While there are facets of our lives for which we lack control, we do have the ability to choose how we view our past and it’s up to us whether we make peace with it.

My glass is half full and so are my memories. I find the older I get, the more I focus on the positive. I not only…

Since I'm the only one of my siblings living in the town we grew up in – Atlanta – I am often the bearer of sad passings of friends from our childhoods. I monitor the obituaries daily and often send one to them, knowing they will be interested: A best friend's elderly mother, a favorite teacher, a boyfriend's dad and, just this week, an old boyfriend himself.

"He was the first boy I ever kissed," my sister Wendy said. "It was very awkward. I had just gotten braces…

I miss my Mom......a lot. I find myself sitting in a silent apartment, alone.....just thinking of her and next thing I know it's four or five or twelve hours later and I've created another video about her. Enjoy.

I'd like to introduce you to a German word that I think could help you to understand some of the confusing emotions you're experiencing in response to the loss of a partner.

The literal translation of the word SEHNSUCHT (German pronunciation: ze nzuxt) is longing, yearning, or…

I have Tim’s school bag. The strap is torn from the impact and heavy from his school books.  I don’t know exactly what happened to his jacket that he was wearing.  It was my jacket which was my platoon jacket from when I was in the Police Academy – my name and class number and platoon designation of “A”.  Over the years it became a ratty thing that Tim took to wearin…

Recently my family experienced yet another death in our family....

My sisters husband died at the early age of 53. Life is so short for some of us. Tomorrow is not promised to anyone.....Thats why its so important that we appreciate the life that God has blessed us with. And to live each day to his praise honor and glory.   I am truly grateful for the courage and strength my family has shown always trusting in Jehovah for strength and relying on his promises in the Bible about the…

Q. My father is very ill and wants his ashes scattered in a lake near the family summer home when he dies. Are there restrictions on doing so? Who should I contact for specific information? Also, there will be no minister present when the ashes are scattered. Is there a protocol we should follow or particular words that should be said?   

Your questions raise some complicated issues. One is location. Is the lake on private or public property? The owner’s…

Q. My husband died 10 months ago and I still haven’t cleared out his closet and bureau. I can’t say when I’ll be ready to do it, but it certainly isn’t now. Is there something wrong with me? Also, what do I do with his belongings when I am ready?  

A bewildering number of tasks fall on a widow’s shoulders, but one of the most daunting is emptying your mate’s drawers and disposing of his clothes and other personal effects. I know of one widow who tackled the…