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September 2010 Blog Posts (53)

my best friend....gone but not forgotten

FOREVER MY J…

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Added by ann on September 30, 2010 at 11:45pm — 1 Comment

my son's 6 month

Once the 14th came, i had a complete breakdown..cried,cried,cried...and i mean i couldnt stop...now i find myself like this all the time...he has so many friends.over 600 people came to the wake...his friends all stop by...they call me 'momma J'...i dont think i can continue at this time to work...i have 2 other children.my daughter turned 16 a month after he passed.he passed on march 14, and my little son turned 12 on march 18...we had to wait to wake him because i couldnt do that to him...it… Continue

Added by ann on September 30, 2010 at 11:25pm — 7 Comments

My Son

On July 7th 2010 we lost our youngest child to suicide. He had just turned 20 on June 25th. I will remember that day for the rest of my life. Every detail. Does the pain ever stop? My son was the strongest person I knew. I never thought he would do this to himself. He loved his family very much and he said this in his note but he also loved someone else more and that person would not return those feelings fully. People say in time we will start healing but right now I cant see that far in the… Continue

Added by Jill Pirtle on September 30, 2010 at 1:00pm — 1 Comment

I don't want him to be gone.

I don't want to see a butterfly and think it's a message from Jason. I want Jason. I want to see him, hear his voice, feel his hugs, hear him laugh, see him smile. I don't want him to be gone.

Added by Susan Jason's Mom on September 30, 2010 at 10:23am — No Comments

REMEMBERING Lewis W. Bowker Jr., 1939-2010

</byl>BY MARY KLAUSmklaus@patriot-news.com

Lewis Bowker Jr. waltzed through his two careers as easily as he danced with his wife of 41 years while they chaperoned Trinity High School proms.The Hampden Twp. man served 27 years in the U.S. Army, retired as a colonel, then spent 10 years as a high school math teacher.Bowker, who…

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Added by melinda bowker on September 30, 2010 at 12:28am — No Comments

REMEMBERING Lewis W. Bowker Jr., 1939-2010

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Added by melinda bowker on September 30, 2010 at 12:28am — No Comments

Years don make it Better

I still search the newspapers hoping to see that lady who killed my son name in there hoping she suffered was or is in more pain than my heart is.I truly hate her, I never hated anyone before she destroyed my life.

Added by Janet Long on September 29, 2010 at 9:48am — No Comments

Loss of my husband

Hi Mary -

I'm so sorry about the loss of your husband.. I lost my husband to cancer too. He passed here at home on the 16th of December 2009, the day after our daughters Birthday.... This has been a difficult time for me through this year and now it seems to be more painful again with the holidays coming up..

It is not easy and it seems theres not a beginning.. Just take one day at a time.. Theres a grieving process to go through and each day may be different for you..…

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Added by Sage on September 28, 2010 at 8:23pm — No Comments

My Daughter, Candace Rae Watson. Just turned 30 years old. (put 39 accidentally!)THIRTY YEARS OLD

Candace turned 30 years old on February 11, 2010. Her and her husband were having a b-b-q- w/friends and enjoying some beers. They got into an arguement so he took their 3 little girls and left. When he didn't come back for a while she took some of his pills the dr had given him for his shoulder. When he came back the next morning she was sitting in front of the tv with the game control in her hands. she was gone. Neither the beer nor the pills would've killed her alone, together it was FATAL!!… Continue

Added by Melinda Ellen Guinn on September 28, 2010 at 3:32pm — 75 Comments

Mom connecting with me!

September 25,2010~ I went with my best friend of 40yrs to the Field of Dreams~Fallball has started, Lisa's 19yr old daughter Annie was playing, the day was really nice she found a table to sit where there was a little breeze and watch the kids socialize and play ball.

The hometown cheerleaders came out to cheer on the players, it was really nice to see them cheer since my daughters were once on the same squad.

Annie knows the game well and is trying to advance to the next level…

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Added by Cindy Scull on September 28, 2010 at 8:18am — No Comments

My two Angels

My heart is in pieces still to this day........I've lost two of my 5 sons. I lost my first born son Michael 26 years ago as an infant, he was born sick and he lived 6 1/2 months. He truly was my angel.

I lost my number three son, Stephen, to a home invasion robbery in which he was murdered in 2009, he was 23 years old. I am in a distressed angry part of healing with my son Stephen as the boys that murdered him are eating away at my peace, .Having a child murdered is really difficult to… Continue

Added by Mary Schneible on September 28, 2010 at 4:30am — No Comments

Lighting the Candles

I just learned about lighting candles for those that have passed. I gathered three candles for my grandpa, grandma, and Jason. As I lit each one I said I miss you and I love you. I then turned on the radio and the first song to come on was Amazing Grace, Jason's favorite hymn. I decided to change the station to country (the only other station I can get) and the next song to play was If I Die Young.

Added by Susan Jason's Mom on September 28, 2010 at 12:31am — No Comments

Happy Birthday Sis

Last night after midnight, I heard the water running for the ice maker, it also has a water dispenser. I thought how odd because I hadn't used any ice. Later when I went to the kitchen there was water in the floor in front of the refrigerator. I cleaned up the water and rolled the refrigerator out to see if there was water underneath and also to check for leaks on the hoses. Nothing, no leaks, no water. And nothing since. Was it a coincidence? I don't know but it is my daughters birthday today.… Continue

Added by Susan Jason's Mom on September 27, 2010 at 10:30pm — No Comments

Anniversary

Today is our 45th anniversary. I am sitting here looking at her pictures listening to the songs we shared. The main song she gave to me 24 years ago "the Power Of Love" by Jennifer Rush. That is all I have been listening to. She told me with that "POWER" we would overcome anything. How true it was. Now I have lost the one true love and friend I could ever have. The hurt is intense but the song helps with all her pictures. I have my house into a shrine of her with 52 pictures all over. When I… Continue

Added by BILL Plunkett on September 27, 2010 at 10:10am — 1 Comment

friends

I JUST LOST ONE OF MY BEST FRIENDS WHOM I GREW UP WITH.SHE LIVED IN FL.I WAS UNABLE TO GO TO HER WAKE FOR PERSONAL REASONS.AND STILL TO THIIS DATE 9/26/2010 I HAVEN'T BEEN ABLE TO DEAL WITH IT.I USE TO GO OUT THERE TO VISIT HER EVERY YEAR OR SHE WOULD COME HERE.SHE HAS A DAUGHTER THAT LIVES HERE WERE I LIVE SAME TOWN AND HAVEN'T BEEN ABLE TO GO SEE HER CAUSE I DON'T WANT TO SEE HER CRY WHEN SHE SEES ME AND I SEE HER.IT HASEN'T BEEN A YEAR YET SINCE SHE PASSED AND TO ME IT SEEMS AS IF IT WAS… Continue

Added by maria leon on September 26, 2010 at 2:47pm — No Comments

I hope my story of my son Adam and my grand father helps you even just a little

Dear Paulette

I lost my son Adam c Rowett on jan 11th 2008 at age 18 he had just graduated and was working at the local ski resort I had so many Idea's and so many thing's I wanted to teach Adam and here all most three years later and yes like you put in your post its just like yesterday .someone else wrote the world stopped I got off and the rest kept going without me . I know many such thoughts and to a point I understand . he was a special kid allways had kind words for everyone…

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Added by Rowett on September 26, 2010 at 12:50am — 1 Comment

Need Help

I lost my 19 year old son, Kyle on Sunday June 20, 2010, This is the first time I found the courage to write this much, I'm scared so scared and not sure why. Why is it so hard to look at his pictures? Is it normal to think this is not real? I'm still waiting for him to call text or walk through the door ans tell me all is ok.....

Added by Jane on September 25, 2010 at 8:09am — 2 Comments

Cameron..My Son, My Life

Cameron was just 1 1/2 months shy of 22 when he passed away. We live in California and he had gone to Denver to pick up his car the last time I saw him. I gave him a hug good-bye on Wednesday night and the next time I saw him was a week later when he was returned home to me. The weeks and months following have been a blur.

Cameron was my baby, I had him when I was 34 and I was devoted to him. He was a happy, popular guy that everyone loved.… Continue

Added by Lauree Lage on September 23, 2010 at 6:46am — 10 Comments

PLEASE PLACE PHOTOS HERE, WE WOULD LOVE TO SEE MEMORIALS, PICTURES OF YOUR CHILDREN OR ANY THING YOU WANT TO SHARE. Thanks

I will put some pictures up later, Thanks all

Added by Tami on September 22, 2010 at 4:17pm — 20 Comments

10 Platitudes Never To Say To A Mourner

After the loss of a loved one, friends and family rush to comfort the bereaved. They want to do and say the right thing in order to help the most. However, sometimes they are not quite sure exactly what is necessary to accomplish that task.

In society, we often hear platitudes such as, "Time heals all wounds." or "God needed your loved one." In truth, these statements do not ease the pain of the mourner.

It certainly is not the intention of friends and family to bring more… Continue

Added by Ellen Gerst on September 22, 2010 at 6:00am — 2 Comments